wedding cancellation

dixie456

wondering if anybody can help me.

My partner ( now ex ) and I decided to split after a tough 6 months, and we had booked to get married in 7 months.

We had paid 2 different deposits, 1000 originally and then a further 2500 in Jan. I went into discuss this with the hotel and i was sent an email the following and was told point blank that i would get nothing back. I completely understand this so i asked could i use some of it ( not even all ) against maybe a meal for my family or something else just to get something out of it but again i was told no.

It was hard enough having to cancel my wedding but i just thought that maybe the hotel may have done something for me. Im wondering if anyone else was in this situtation.

thanks a mil

biko

The hotel will be able to book something else for the date so keeping all that money seems ott.
What hotel was it? Did you look if there is a cancellation policy?

Moonbeam

Read your contract carefully, you might find something in it to help.

hoodwinked

Take a look at the cancelation policy in your contract

a few hotels reduce the percentage you get back a year before and again at 6 months before, so if its 7 months to go, make sure you sort it out soon to potentially get more back.

ours for example is something like:

up to 12 months before 50% back
upto 6 months before 25%
after six months - nothing.

Bride2012

I've heard before that some hotels will keep the deposit if they can't fill the date but they are more flexible if they get another wedding and may be open to other options such as the family meal (lovely idea). On some other wedding forums people put up their cancelled date saying that it's free to encourage another booking. You could ask the hotel about this maybe?

dixie456

Contract does clearly state All deposits are Non Refundable. I just would have been happy with even some of it back, i wasnt even looking for it all. I did query about the filling date but they stated that they wont be able to fill it! I just feel that they havent helped one bit! thank god most of the other suppliers were more considerate.

Sleepy

Could you have a "non-wedding" party there?

If the hotel won't budge, as far as I'd be concerned I'd tell them the wedding was back on and throw a mock-wedding party to the value of the 3.5k there with the minimum number of guests as the contract allowed. If no minimum is specified, turn up with 20 mates and drink the 3.5k

Have it as your "wedding" to your teddy bear if needs be and generally make a fcuking show of yourselves. Make them regret their inflexibility!

silly

Sleepy wrote: »

Could you have a "non-wedding" party there?

If the hotel won't budge, as far as I'd be concerned I'd tell them the wedding was back on and throw a mock-wedding party to the value of the 3.5k there with the minimum number of guests as the contract allowed. If no minimum is specified, turn up with 20 mates and drink the 3.5k

Have it as your "wedding" to your teddy bear if needs be and generally make a fcuking show of yourselves. Make them regret their inflexibility!

Seriously? the last thing i would want to do on the day i was supposed to get married is to have a mock wedding....
and make a show of yourself? sounds very immature if you ask me.
Yes, it is unfair that the hotel wont refund you, but if it says it in the contract then you have no come back really.

Sorry to hear about your breakup, it must be very tough on you, but i would suggest forgetting all about the hotel, and just try and move on and get back to normality with your life.

Sleepy

Maybe it is immature (but isn't your username too?)

My point is that I wouldn't let the hotel keep my 3.5k. I'd take it off them in services. Unless the minimum numbers and minimum meal costs for the hotel meant I'd have to spend a huge amount more, I'd get my money's worth and, personally, would rather spend the day that I was supposed to be getting married on getting drunk with my friends than moping about watching Dirty Dancing with a bottle of Pinot Grigio

hoodwinked

dixie456 wrote: »

wondering if anybody can help me.

My partner ( now ex ) and I decided to split after a tough 6 months, and we had booked to get married in 7 months.

We had paid 2 different deposits, 1000 originally and then a further 2500 in Jan. I went into discuss this with the hotel and i was sent an email the following and was told point blank that i would get nothing back. I completely understand this so i asked could i use some of it ( not even all ) against maybe a meal for my family or something else just to get something out of it but again i was told no.

It was hard enough having to cancel my wedding but i just thought that maybe the hotel may have done something for me. Im wondering if anyone else was in this situtation.

thanks a mil

im sorry it didn't work out,

if you cannot find anyone to take it, is it that the hotel wont let you and your family have a sit down meal on that day?

godtabh

Go ahead with the "wedding"

book a reception for how many people the €3500 covers. Invite all your friends and have a life is good celebration.

dixie456

the contract also states that there has to be a minimum of 140 people!!

as i have a big birthday celebration near the end of the year i asked could we use the money towards this and this is where they said no!!

Actually does it make a different that we never signed for anything??? or is by paying the deposit accepting their terms and conditions?

Daisy M

Have you contacted the national consumers agency maybe they could tell you if they are within their rights not to allow you to use the deposit for a different event. Also would you name and shame them, 3500 is a lot of money and they are not providing any service for it.

Senna

contract also states..
..we never signed for anything..

Clear this up for me;
Were you given a contract?
Is there a place on this contract were you should have signed?
Was the €2500 paid in January a term in the contract?

Daisy M wrote: »

Have you contacted the national consumers agency maybe they could tell you if they are within their rights not to allow you to use the deposit for a different event. Also would you name and shame them, 3500 is a lot of money and they are not providing any service for it.

This is a thing Irish people have to get out of their head, the hotel is losing money by the OP cancelling their wedding, the hotel is not thinking "great we got 3.5k for doing nothing", the hotel would much rather you hold your wedding, but if you cancel, you pay a penalty as its very doubtful someone else will book their wedding with only 7 months to go.

yogalady

Really sorry to hear about your wedding cancelation. hope you r doing ok

If you didn't sign anything then it might be worth your while going to a solicitor to get some advice. Could be money well spent if you got any money back

Best of luck with it