Girlfriends Problems

LegacyUser

I'm just going to keep this post short,

I've been going out with my girlfriend for nearly three years now (I'm 23, she 21) and do love her and treat her like a princess,

But there is just one thing really bugging me about our relationship. We both are STD clear and my gf is on the pill, but I still have to wear a condom.

I would just love to hear from other men/women around my own age in long term relationships are ye still using condoms ?

thanks

Siuin

Judging from those I have talked to, it really depends on the person's preference but many couples I know still use condoms as a kind of 'doubling up' of protection - the pill by itself isn't always reliable. That said, both parties are perfectly happy with this. Have you discussed the issue with her? Maybe you might want to look into the injection or something like that.

R.D. aka MR.D

I'm in my mid-20's and there is absolutely no way i would have sex with out a condom for the simple fact that the pill or any other contraception is without a shadow of a doubt 100% safe. I couldn't deal with the expense and emotional heartache of an abortion or even having a child!

You even hear terrifying stories of people who were doubling up and still got pregnant.

Balmed Out

Until I want a kid i'll wear a condom. You would be silly not to.

Jen Pigs Fly

I don't like condoms, I've an allergy to latex and most cheap condoms cause horrible pain so I don't bother anymore. (I will always use one with a new partner though, only without when I'm in a long term relationship)

I take the pill religiously and have been on it for 7 year now (Since the age of 15) I trust the pill more than condoms, I've had them break a lot in the past, why I went onto the pill at such an early age.

it all depends on the person though, I personally hate them, hate the feeling of them, hate the pain the cheap ones cause.

hondasam

OP123 wrote: »

I'm just going to keep this post short,

I've been going out with my girlfriend for nearly three years now (I'm 23, she 21) and do love her and treat her like a princess,

But there is just one thing really bugging me about our relationship. We both are STD clear and my gf is on the pill, but I still have to wear a condom.

I would just love to hear from other men/women around my own age in long term relationships are ye still using condoms ?

thanks

In one way she is a smart girl where contraception is concerned, have you asked her why she wants you to use condoms as well?

Sleepy

R.D. aka MR.D wrote: »

You even hear terrifying stories of people who were doubling up and still got pregnant.

That's how I became a parent.

I've no regrets about it now but even though I was 27 and had established my career when my other half got pregnant it was still a hell of a shock.

Even when taken properly the pill isn't 100% reliable. The only thing that is, tbh, is abstinence.

It sounds like your other half is a smart one OP, hang on to her!

Contessa Raven

I'm 24 and have been with my partner for 5 years and we still use condoms in conjunction with the pill. It's not because we're worried about STD's. The reason is that we're not in a position to care for a child yet and until we are, we won't risk getting pregnant.

I suggest speaking to your girlfriend and explain to her your feelings about using condoms. I would hazard a guess that it isn't STD's worrying her. The pill isn't 100% foolproof. If she takes anti-biotics or is ill after taking it, the effects are reduced and the risk grows.

I understand your feelings of not wanting to use them but isn't it better than ending up with a baby you're not ready for?

Only answer is to talk to her and find out her concerns but don't be surprised if it's something she isn't willing to compromise on.