Slept with girl's friend.

LegacyUser

So, I recently started going out with this woman recently. We get along incredibly well and there's a chemistry between us that I've never felt with anyone before.

There's a problem though, I slept with a friend of hers one night long before we started going out. It was a drunken one-night stand thing that happened before I even knew the girl I'm going out with and I haven't talked to her since.

The thing is that I'm not sure if the girl I'm going out with knows this. She definitely knows we kissed but I don't know if she knows if anything else happened. She talks about all her other friends but never mentions this particular one despite the fact that they still hang out.

So should I discuss it with her (and potentially **** things up between us) or leave the past in the past?

I would've done it a while ago but I really like this girl and don't want to ruin things.

Any advice/opinions would be very much appreciated. It's been bothering me quite a bit over the last few weeks.

I am a friend

Yeah don't tell. The other girl is entitled to her privacy too - a gent never kisses and tells

Katgurl

I'd say she suspects but doesn't want to know which in fairness to her, is the smartest move. I'm basing this on you mentioning she doesn't ever reference this particular friend. I definitely would not raise the topic but if she asks directly tell her the truth - BUT keep detail minimal, say it was casual but don't be insulting towards other girl and then close the topic, it being a subject that gets frequently revisited spells disaster.

missbelle

When I saw the thread title, I thought you had cheated on your girlfriend, but as you explained this was way before you met your girlfriend and it's just a coincidence (what a small world etc) that they are friends. As katgurl mentioned, she probably suspects/knows what happened, hence why she never mentions her. I think you're best to leave it be, by the sounds of it things are going really well,so why chance messing it up

I agree with the other posters OP, keep it zipped.

If she asks, tell the truth, but if you go explaining things to her out of the blue (which she probably already knows anyway), it will seem like it's a big deal to you, and it wont look good. There's no need to tell her, it's not like it happened while you were with her.

msg11

OP , a girl I went out with in the past similar to yourself, she slept with a friend I knew in the past. Anyway one of my mates told me this and been honest I would have rather it been left in the past. She never mentioned it but I knew and it never really sat easy with me at all, always in the back of my mind. It kind of eat me up a bit. So I wouldn't tell her the ins and outs of the situation let her think what she wants and if she ask then don't lie about it.

BTW nothing worse than one of them one night stands hanging around in the same group.

LegacyUser

How close of friends are they? Friends talk, share their stories and experiences with each other usually, well if it were in my circle of friends, I would have know about it.

If they are close enough friends it probably means she knew before getting involved with you, has already dealt with it and made a choice to give it go anyway. I'd leave it for now and if it comes up naturally, deal with it then. . .

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the advice/different perspectives. I guess that I'll just talk about it with her if she brings it up and, if not, just not mention it out of respect to the other girl's privacy.

And to think, I was about to do exact opposite...