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Concerned about new 'friend'

  • 03-05-2012 5:21pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I bumped into a lad that lived near me as a teenager recently and exchanged phone numbers. He texted a few times with general chitchat which was grand but it started to get very frequent and more random as time went on.

    I tried not responding but the texts kept coming about how he'd been diagnosed with depression and he was lonely and not sleeping. I suggested he speak to someone about it and invited him on a night out. He declined the offer but keeps texting me about how down he is, even in the middle of the night.

    I barely know him and I find the texts a bit unnerving but I dont want to just ignore the guy incase he is really in a bad way and needs help. I dont think he has any family and dont know who his friends are.


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  • #2
    OS119
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,518 ✭✭✭OS119


    sunflower27 wrote: »
    ...and I am sure he will understand that you have limited resources to help a person suffering with depression/loneliness....

    couldn't disagree more - isn't the only conclusion you can draw from someone texting you at 3am about how depressed they are that they believe that not only can you help them, but that you've got nothing else going on in your life that might get in the way of concentrating on them 24/7?

    nothing in the OP's post suggests that this bloke has the slightest clue that either the OP isn't in a position to help him, or that he'd rather this bloke didn't text him constantly.

    OP, by all means let this bloke know about the professional services that he needs - samaritans, community mental health team etc - but you might want to think about getting new SIM card so you can avoid this bloke when you want to, and also because if he keeps texting you're going to get pisted off, and then you're going to tell hem to sling his hook- and thats not in his interests.


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