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Asking someone out

  • 02-05-2012 6:32pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Just curious about a certain query....

    Basically, would you ask a stranger out on a date??? I imagine it's scary enough for straight folk, but I think the fear of rejection is somewhat compounded for gay people.

    Context is I fancy a starnger. I'm pretty sure there's some mutual attraction, but I would never have the balls to ask them out.


Comments

  • #2
    brokenice
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 161 ✭✭brokenice


    just don't phrase it like a 'date' date. just casually ask if they wanted to head out sometime for a drink or hang out or something....no biggie!


  • #3
    mrroboto
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16 ✭mrroboto


    brokenice wrote: »
    just don't phrase it like a 'date' date. just casually ask if they wanted to head out sometime for a drink or hang out or something....no biggie!
    I know how you feel. It's a pain no doubt. Keeping it casual is a good way to go. Even if they're straight, you have a new friend. But you have to drop the bumbshell at somestage if he/she doesn't do it first. You can't exactly drop the question, what team do you play for into casual conversation. I'd love to know how people do it. Surely not every gay couple meet online or at an LGBT event/venue.


  • #4
    ongarboy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,201 ✭✭✭ongarboy


    mrroboto wrote: »
    I'd love to know how people do it. Surely not every gay couple meet online or at an LGBT event/venue.


    I guess there might be clues that you'd need to pay attention for to confirm the other person was also of your orientation. But this would only really apply where you have already struck up a conversation with the person (mentioning of gay specific things like "I often head to the Front Lounge when I'm in Dublin" or "Zac Efron would be more my cup of tea...." etc). Of course there's also the subtle physical things like a bit more eye contact and smiling that you might give to someone you don't fancy.

    As regards success rate with approaching strangers that you fancy outside of LGBT venues, I'd say the chances of scoring are very slim and you could create an at best awkward or worst dangerous position for yourself depending on the attitude of the person you fancy not batting for your side. This type of scenario is hard enough for straight folks so is multiplied for LGBTs.


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