Heartbroke :(

LegacyUser

So, i've been with a girl just over a year now. She's the most beautiful, sexy, funny, kindest girl I ever met. And I am absolutely crazy about her. I love her to bits. But she's changed. It's over. And I don't know what to do. She's been hiding things and lying about things lately and then has excuses which are far from believable when confronted about them. And i just feel empty. That its over. I have been in a 3 year relationship a few years back and that ending was NOTHING compared to this. This has left me broken altogether. The fact that the trust is gone and she has lost interest in me for others is killing me. I don't know what to do, I really fancied this girl before we got together and I fell for her hard.

Time may be a great healer, but I won't be able to watch her move on I'm f*cked

Anyone else in a similar situation at the minute. It sucks

BraziliaNZ

HartBroken wrote: »

So, i've been with a girl just over a year now. She's the most beautiful, sexy, funny, kindest girl I ever met. And I am absolutely crazy about her. I love her to bits. But she's changed. It's over. And I don't know what to do. She's been hiding things and lying about things lately and then has excuses which are far from believable when confronted about them. And i just feel empty. That its over. I have been in a 3 year relationship a few years back and that ending was NOTHING compared to this. This has left me broken altogether. The fact that the trust is gone and she has lost interest in me for others is killing me. I don't know what to do, I really fancied this girl before we got together and I fell for her hard.

Time may be a great healer, but I won't be able to watch her move on I'm f*cked

Anyone else in a similar situation at the minute. It sucks

Yeah you need to accept that she's not going to come back to you. In the slight chance she does it will just be that she wants attention or has been rejected by someone else and needs a backup.
You need to distance yourself from her as much as possible. Judging by your writing I'd imagine you're young so you could be in college with her or something. If this is the case just do whatever you can to not be around her. Time will heal sooner or later, it isn't a cliche for nothing. Whatever you do, don't make a fool of yourself by begging and pleading for another chance etc, just try to accept it's over.
It may feel like the end of the world but it isn't. There's far more to life than girls!

branbee

Spoil yourself! It doesn't make the pain go away but it helps soften the blow!
:-)

Im currently going thru a break up too and we have a child together- i know it doesn't help but you're lucky in the sense that you can have a clean break from her. No ties, no complications just a clean break for you to move on. This is honestly the best thing you can do.take this as a time to focus on yourself, spoil yourself and ignore her because she's not worth it. She may have seemed great and all but if she's putting you thru this pain then she's not as great as she seems and at least you realised that before she sucked you in further.

You'll be ok.

LegacyUser

Cheers for the replies. We were talking today and it's not any easier. I'm broke up, but I think I should take this advice and let her go. It will take time and watching her move on and being with other lads is going to crush me, no joke. But hey, such is life

BraziliaNZ

HartBroken wrote: »

Cheers for the replies. We were talking today and it's not any easier. I'm broke up, but I think I should take this advice and let her go. It will take time and watching her move on and being with other lads is going to crush me, no joke. But hey, such is life

How is it that you're going to be able to watch her move on and be with other lads? Why would you want to see that? Have you deleted her from facebook etc?

branbee

HartBroken wrote: »

Cheers for the replies. We were talking today and it's not any easier. I'm broke up, but I think I should take this advice and let her go. It will take time and watching her move on and being with other lads is going to crush me, no joke. But hey, such is life

It kills, it really does, it makes you feel sick even thinking about it, I've been there but you'll be ok if you just move on from her. Not necessarily moving on with someone else just away from her. Try enjoying things yourself- movies, music etc. Just be you for a bit. I know how hard it is. It sucks. Really bad! :-(

LegacyUser

Yeah we're not friends on facebook anymore, and to be honest, facebook is a disaster for relationships. Much of where the lies and hiding came into action. Going back to lads she was with before we met up and that and lying about it, it's hurtful on a level I've never experienced.

What can I say, time will tell how it pans out.

Thanks everyone.

Magenta

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

How is it that you're going to be able to watch her move on and be with other lads? Why would you want to see that? Have you deleted her from facebook etc?

I'm not sure if you read the part "watching her move on and being with other lads is going to crush me, no joke." or if you're just putting words in the OP's mouth/trying to be smart.

BraziliaNZ

Magenta wrote: »

I'm not sure if you read the part "watching her move on and being with other lads is going to crush me, no joke." or if you're just putting words in the OP's mouth/trying to be smart.

I don't know what you're saying here

LegacyUser

Update..

So, like a fool went to see her last nite she swore she would come clean about everything and i fell for it. She told me she had been chatting to lads on fb, and that she hadnt moved on and it was harmless. i said ok, we'd be gettin along fine, i knew something wasnt quite right. she had deactivated her fb, and then told me she couldnt log in. and asked me did i believe her about everything. i said sure i'll activate your fb for ya, it was only such and such lads you were chatting. and she lost it. blew up completely. saying it was all my fault etc. now this is coming from a girl who had my password for fb, everything. i had hers to, so i didnt understand the whole secrecy thing this time.

I know something else is going on I just know it, deep down. and it is crushing. long story short, i'm definitely through now. someone who never kept a secret in my life has completely changed over a 3/4 week break up. and its mad how people can really surprise you.

Anyway, I wish her all the best cutting the back off me to her new fella, it will all come out in the wash, and I don't need that carry on

Thanks for the replies lads, appreciate em

SunnyDub1

sounds like she is playing mind games with you and there is no trust there at all..

Best thing you can do is move, not easy but it's worth it. Cut all contact with her, if she contacts you - ignore it.
You will realize in time that she really is not all that.

Enjoy the single life, loads to do for youself... Best thing about coming out of a relationship is that you have so much more time for family, friends and doing things that You enjoy doing..

Make the most of it and move on.