Wording on invitations

dunna

Does anyone remember what way you worded your wedding invitations?
I know its personal to everyone but would just like a few ideas as wedding invites need to be ordered this week!
Also, did you send reply cards or ask people to reply by text?
O and how many 'spare' invites did u order??
:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

Raphael

Mrs Raphael
and
Mr Raphael

Invite you to celebrate ourwedding
Friday, the datewe'regettingmarried, at wheneverduringdayit'sgoingdown.

In theplacewhereit'shappening

With Reception to follow in theplacethat'shappening

www.wehadawebsitehere.com

We sent out RSVP cards with S.A.Es, but a mate of mine has all his RSVPs done through the wedding website - best to have some sort of strict plan and make it clear on the invite, whatever it is.

Couldn't tell you how the number of invites was figured, she did that.

Wording on the RSVP cards:

Please reply by
Some date
Name(s):.......
O - Yes
O - No
Total Number of guests:...

Please indicate number of:
Beef:_ Fish:_ Veg:_
For special dietary requirements, contact us asap

hoodwinked

we had something along the lines of: (wording was more organised)

Miss *****

invites you to the marriage of her parents,

*insert your names here*

at *insert time here*

*insert place*

and then onto

*insert details*

RSVP by *day* June.


for the Rsvp's

we just had

I/we would love to attend your wedding(or 'reception' for the afters) []
i/we cannot attend your wedding []

signed: *they insert their names here*

we had wedding on the RSVP's for the full and reception on the RSVP's for the afters, so we could tell which is which when we get them back!

seamus

Yeah, similar wording as above, "Jane and John would like to invite Jimmy to "...etc

We also sent addressed and stamped envelopes with our RSVP cards (even then we didn't get some of them back :rolleyes: ) with the person's name printed on them. That was a little tip we got from my sister-in-law who received a not small number of RSVP cards ticked, but with no name on them.

We made our own invites, so we didn't need to do any spare ones, just rattled off a second batch for late invites.

Sleepy

hoodwinked wrote: »

we had something along the lines of: (wording was more organised)

Miss *****

invites you to the marriage of her parents,

I'm afraid I absolutely have to rob that idea... love it!

Toto Wolfcastle

seamus wrote: »

We also sent addressed and stamped envelopes with our RSVP cards (even then we didn't get some of them back :rolleyes: ) with the person's name printed on them. That was a little tip we got from my sister-in-law who received a not small number of RSVP cards ticked, but with no name on them.

We put a number on the back of every RSVP card to make sure that we knew who was RSVPing. So far we haven't had any need for the numbers apart from one nutter who decided to have a bit of fun with the RSVP.

We also gave people the option of RSVPing on our website but so far the majority have used the cards. We only sent out the invitations last week though.

We went with the traditional way.

Bride's parents

request the please of the company of

x & y

at the marriage of their daughter

Bride
to
Groom

on Date
at Time
in Church
followed by a reception at Hotel

RSVP by Date.

moco

Do most people still put their parents names as the inviter?

Toto Wolfcastle

I don't think so. I think most people put their own names on the invitation.

moco

Thanks bobble head. My mum asked me the other day and when I said we were putting our own names on I think I sensed a bit of shock!

Neyite

moco wrote: »

Thanks bobble head. My mum asked me the other day and when I said we were putting our own names on I think I sensed a bit of shock!

I think that more and more couples are putting their own names down, as they are the ones paying and hosting the day. It'd be different if your parents were footing the whole shebang.

With my sisters wedding (which her and hubbie to be are paying for in full) my mother was initially surprised, but then when it was pointed out that the guest list was limited, she realised if her name was on the invites that it would seem like she was the one excluding all the people who invited her to their offsprings wedding, as she was given a limited quota of guests. So, once she realised that it looked like she had no say in the invites and it got her off the hook nicely with the neighbours she was happy out.

moco

Thanks neyite, thats a brilliant angle ;-)

Dostoevsky

dunna wrote: »

Does anyone remember what way you worded your wedding invitations?
I know its personal to everyone but would just like a few ideas as wedding invites need to be ordered this week!
Also, did you send reply cards or ask people to reply by text?
O and how many 'spare' invites did u order??

We got our inspiration from the excellent Coyne Design website: Cuireadh Bainise

There is also wording for 'Thank You', RSVP cards etc in English and Irish on that site. The stationary shop we went to was offering a good discount on all RSVP and 'Thank You' cards if purchased before a certain date. The shop assistant said they would only be for the ready-made ones in English. I googled the owner of the store and contacted him directly. He immediately said the same deal would apply for cards in Irish so that was a decent further saving.

We ordered 10% more cards that we needed (at the time). We also put a specially created email address (took two minutes on gmail) and a mobile number on the invites just so people could have choices in responding. And don't forget the special dietary requirements on the RSVP card. If you want to do them in Irish the little-known Freagra service from Foras na Gaeilge is superb and free in confirming/correcting your Irish version (although the above Coyne site is perfectly reliable in that regard).

dunna

Some great replies there! Thanks everyone
We are thinking of putting 'Miss Y & Mr X, together with their parents'....... on our invites.
Only thing is he has only one parent (dad is dead). Would this still be ok???

Gatica

you can google for specific family circumstance invites, especially if you want to keep it formal.. I saw some of them before when searching for invitation wording. There were some for divorced parents, remarried parents, widowed parents, so yes, is the short answer.

Some people still prefer the traditional invite of "parents of bride would like to invite", others prefer the modern version of "couple would like to invite". I'm a bit of an independent spirit, so we're inviting from ourselves, not our parents. Neither is wrong really, just pick what's best for you and your situation.

Nowadays there's no need to do paper RSVPs, especially if you're on a tight budget. We're doing ours through our website. We may print a handful for the elderly that don't use d'interwebs, to make it easier for them. No separate envelopes just postcard style cards. I don't care if the postman knows who's coming or not to the wedding.

Sleepy

I always read [Brides Parents] would like to invite you to the wedding of their daughter as "nice for them, mammy and daddy picking up the tab!"

dunna

Thanks again for the replies.
Think we will go ahead with 'together with their parents' option.
Another quick question!
On the envelopes do you write Mr & Mrs John & Mary Kelly followed by the address of course or do you write John & Mary Kelly?
Is Mr & Mrs the better option??
:eek:

moco

dunna wrote: »

Thanks again for the replies.
Think we will go ahead with 'together with their parents' option.
Another quick question!
On the envelopes do you write Mr & Mrs John & Mary Kelly followed by the address of course or do you write John & Mary Kelly?
Is Mr & Mrs the better option??
:eek:

I would just put mr & mrs Kelly?

Zaph

Sleepy wrote: »

I always read [Brides Parents] would like to invite you to the wedding of their daughter as "nice for them, mammy and daddy picking up the tab!"

I think it's a little presumptuous to assume that tbh. The parents may have helped out in other non-financial ways and the couple may want to acknowledge that. Or the parents may be older and the couple wanted to keep to something that the parents would be more used to. Or even just the couple themselves might like to have more traditional wording on the invitation.

dunna wrote: »

Thanks again for the replies.
Think we will go ahead with 'together with their parents' option.
Another quick question!
On the envelopes do you write Mr & Mrs John & Mary Kelly followed by the address of course or do you write John & Mary Kelly?
Is Mr & Mrs the better option??
:eek:

We went for a mix of both, it really depended on who they were being sent to and how formal we felt you needed to be with them. But if you're going for Mr & Mrs you generally only use the husband's name or neither, e.g. Mr & Mrs John Kelly (very old-school, it's been a while since I've seen this form used anywhere) or Mr & Mrs Kelly.

moco

The wording on our invitations has turned into a bit of an issue now. Myself and my partner always assumed we would be putting ourselves as the people inviting on the invitations. We're paying for everything with no help from parents, plus I moved out of home at 17, 15 years ago so it just doesn't really sit well with me to put my parents as the people inviting. Maybe if I was younger I'd be ok with it, but not now. It would just feel strange.

My mother asked me if we were putting them as the people inviting, and I said no (in a nice way). She's said it to my dad and came back and told me that he was a bit annoyed about it and said that's not the way things should be done.

I don't really know what to do now. I don't want to upset them, but I don't want to change our wording.

Sleepy

Very simple answer: Is Dad going to pay for the wedding since that's "the way things should be done"?

Gatica

I agree...
Maybe not put it to them quite like that. However, let them know that that is a very traditional way of wording invitations and that few people you know are still doing it that way. I wouldn't avoid telling them why either though: the parents of the bride used to pay for the whole wedding and the father passed his daughter onto the groom; nowadays couples live together before the wedding and fund their own celebration, thus inviting their friends and family on their own behalf rather than the parents'.
It's just not the done thing anymore...

moco

Gatica wrote: »

I agree...
Maybe not put it to them quite like that. However, let them know that that is a very traditional way of wording invitations and that few people you know are still doing it that way. I wouldn't avoid telling them why either though: the parents of the bride used to pay for the whole wedding and the father passed his daughter onto the groom; nowadays couples live together before the wedding and fund their own celebration, thus inviting their friends and family on their own behalf rather than the parents'.
It's just not the done thing anymore...

Yea, that's how I'm going to have to say it, although I do feel bad. I feel a bit petty saying we're doing the inviting as we're paying, but I'm sure I'l get over it!:o

Sunny Dayz

We worded our invites as being from my parents (me being the bride). It read that way best in the end although I'd imagine there would be tensions alright if we were pushing the invites as being from the marrying couple. My parents paid for the hotel reception as their gift, perhaps old fashioned in this day and age, but my parents are far from old and we have been house savings as weel as wedding saving. We paid for everything else ourselves.

About the RSVP cards - we didn't bother! We put our address and mobile no's on the inside cover of the card with an RSVP date. Most replied to our mobiles, or to either of our parents, people mentioned it in passing when we were chatting them, and a few went out bought an RSVP card and posted it.
A cousin of mine included SAE with the RSVP's - I wasn't able to attend the wedding as it was abroad and instead i sent her a chatty email rather than a tick the no box reply.
Then another friend got married and she INSISTED on everyone returning RSVP's as "they were something she would hold onto". And stressed when people hadn't replied/ filled it out wrong/ did't include name!

Penny Dreadful

dunna wrote: »

Some great replies there! Thanks everyone
We are thinking of putting 'Miss Y & Mr X, together with their parents'....... on our invites.
Only thing is he has only one parent (dad is dead). Would this still be ok???

We did Mr X and Miss Y together with their families are .....

I couldn't stomach the idea of Mr and Mrs Dreadful invite A & B to the wedding of Penny to Pound at ......
However, mum and dad have given some money and I didn't want to leave them out totally. BUT my fiance's parents have given loads of hassle re: the people that we're not inviting and so I didn't want their names or even the word parents to be mentioned and so we settled on families.

Dostoevsky

dunna wrote: »

Thanks again for the replies.
Think we will go ahead with 'together with their parents' option.
Another quick question!
On the envelopes do you write Mr & Mrs John & Mary Kelly followed by the address of course or do you write John & Mary Kelly?
Is Mr & Mrs the better option??
:eek:

In my view, putting 'Mr' and 'Mrs' is old fashioned. It adds nothing; it's clear that John is a guy and Mary is a girl. It's like a hangover from some class-ridden pre-modern society where titles were a big deal.

If you'd like to be old fashioned in a funny way here's some 15th-century wedding invites: Renaissance Wedding Invitations

Terri26

moco wrote: »

T

I don't really know what to do now. I don't want to upset them, but I don't want to change our wording.

How about Mary and John along with their parents .......... .......... invite you to celebrate the joining together blah blah blah?
Bit of a compromise perhaps