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Right or wrong thing to do

  • 29-04-2012 11:58am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Yesterday a friend of mine told me he had feelings for me and I turned him down. Although I like him too, I feel he definitely isn't in the place at the moment to be thinking about seeing someone and needs to work out what he really wants after being through a lot. I'm also concerned he only likes me because of a possible security feeling that comes with being with someone familiar and a few other things as well.

    At the back of my mind I feel I should be helping him to get through what he needs to but I think he is very confused and I felt the best thing I could do was let him be and focus on himself which he needs to do. Thinking over it today and reading over this I feel I did the right thing, but I guess I feel bad that I probably hurt him on top of everything else that he is going through and the small little part that is niggling away at me wants to be sure that hurting him wasn't the wrong thing to do.


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  • #2
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    I guess it all depends on the manner in which you turned him down. If you were nice and explained why, then you did the right thing.


  • #3
    Procrastastudy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,224 ✭✭✭Procrastastudy


    You should have said:
    red tshirt wrote: »
    Yesterday a friend of mine told me he had feelings for me and I turned him down. Although I like him too, I feel he definitely isn't in the place at the moment to be thinking about seeing someone and needs to work out what he really wants after being through a lot. I'm also concerned he only likes me because of a possible security feeling that comes with being with someone familiar and a few other things as well.

    At the back of my mind I feel I should be helping him to get through what he needs to but I think he is very confused and I felt the best thing I could do was let him be and focus on himself which he needs to do. Thinking over it today and reading over this I feel I did the right thing, but I guess I feel bad that I probably hurt him on top of everything else that he is going through and the small little part that is niggling away at me wants to be sure that hurting him wasn't the wrong thing to do.

    to him. :)


  • #4
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,916 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    From your post, I'm guessing you have no romantic feelings for him? Because if you genuinely had feelings then the time would be right for you to be together.

    If you don't fancy him/like him in "that" way, then really, the only thing you could do, is turn him down.


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