Feeling a bit lost!!

LegacyUser

Hi guys,
21 year old guy here, was going out with my girlfriend for a little over a year when we broke up 2 months ago! For the past 2 months I've been feeling kind of lost and alone!
I am still good friends with my ex, we didn't brake up because one of us cheated or anything like that, we just felt it wasnt right, but agreed to stay friends because I'll be honest she is my best friend, completely love her to bits!! We both agreed we'd support each other when one of us found someone else and all that stuff!!
I want to move on with my life anyway and find someone, but it just doesn't feel right, I wasn't out in town without her once in the last 12 months, and when I went out with the lads last week, it just didnt feel right!! Stupid I know!!
Another thing I'm feeling is that I really cant b bothered with the whole getting to know someone, going out for dates etc, which again for a 21 year old to be saying is crazy!! I'm hoping this will just pass!! Maybe it's too soon, but I can't sit at home for ever!!

Anyone been through something like this??

surdah

Hi Op although it might seem like a lonely place many many of us have been there and I think you need to wallow for a while. None of it will feel right for quite a while, the going out with the lads or going out of town and you can decide to go through the motions of doing these things or stay home but for me at least it was better to be doing something than sitting at home thinking. It does get easier I promise you that. I remember a time when I was at home literally wailing and crying out loud in sheer pain but now when I look back I cant even remember how it felt to be that person. At 21 you really do have your whole life ahead of you with so many adventures to come so just stay strong and carry on!!

Wompa1

I wouldn't worry about it too much, fair play if it was a completely mutual break up, that's pretty mature of you both. Unfortunately it usually isn't as amicable as that. My advise to you would be concentrate on yourself and enjoy being single, now when most people say that there's usually this unspoken undertone of, go out and get laid. I think that's the worst thing you could do. I would do this, you should find or rediscover what it is you like outside of girls and concentrate on that. Get yourself into a good position and worry about girls later. Also it's when you stop trying that you get the most attention anyway.

Also it's very possible she'll move on very soon or sooner than you may have expected. Be prepared for it and don't worry when it happens. Keep looking out for yourself.

Herrick

Hey OP, I think we're kinda in the same boat. I'm 22, was going out with my ex girlfriend for just under a year and only broke up with her two months ago as well

I feel the exact same as you. It kinda feels odd doing stuff where you would have been used to having your gf with you. But I'm getting used to it now. I kinda felt a bit strange when heading out with my friends too for the first bit after breaking up with her, you have just become used to having her around and its strange now that she's not with you.

I also can't be bothered with meeting new girls at the moment either, all the hassle of heading out, chatting up, texting, arranging dates and getting to know someone does not appeal in the slightest to me at the moment. I'm actually really happy being single and having all the me time I want. I think it's a good idea to stay single for a bit after a relationship and give yourself a chance to relax and recharge so to speak.

I say forget the worrying, what your feeling is completely normal. Forget about meeting new girls while you feel this way. Start hanging out with friends, doing hobbies and other stuff you enjoy. Eventually after a while the feelings will fade and you will want to get back out there and meet someone new.