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Getting too attached

  • 26-04-2012 6:39pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey guys I will get straight to it. So I have been texting this girl the last month since we met on a night out for our college. We are in different colleges but both are in Dublin. Anyway we have met up five or six times since we first met and at the start it seemed she really was into me. But lately her interest has started to dwindle but as soon as I start to think she does not like me, she will meet up with me for drinks or whatever and the two of us will have great fun together.

    My problem is she is always on my mind, I cannot get her out of my head and I only know her a short amount of time. Is it normal to like somebody that much so soon without seeming clingy or stalkerish?

    We text everyday but it has been me texting first for the last 2 weeks about. She must know I like her and because of this I think she is playing hard to get by sometimes not replying and other times ending the conversation early. I want to know should I hold back on the texting in case she is getting scared and just text her once every few days or should I back off altogether? or Should I just tell her I like her just to reassure her?

    But the more I see her, the more I think she is too good and pretty for me and this scares me because if I keep texting her and do nothing it gives another guy a chance with her. I could try and chance it and hope she does not met anyone in the summer, drop her a line every 2 weeks or so and hope we meet up next college year??

    Any bit of advice would be great. :-))


Comments

  • #2
    _dublinlad_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 243 ✭✭_dublinlad_


    Personally I find text is the lowest form of communication... so much can me misread and left out. Ring the girl if you want to talk to her, dont get me wrong texting is fine for small talk sometimes but if its annoying you that shes not replying then drop her a quick call. Along the lines of "Hey stranger how are you", keep it brief and light and maybe ask her out again. You should then be able to judge from her enthusiasm if she has lost interest in you.


  • #3
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    I would advice to lay off the contact.

    You only know her a month and your texting every day? From what you've said, I'm thinking that maybe its smuddering her a little.

    If she's still willing to meet up, I'd say her interest hasn't exactly dwindled.

    I would say lay off, don't text her for a few days. It will give her some space and allow you to see if she contacts you.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Oh dear, you are a smitten kitten aren't you? :)

    It can be flattering when someone is so attentive but it can also be slightly irritating as there's no mystery there then - she is bound to be in no doubt how you feel. I'm not condoning mindgames but I would definitely lay off with the frequency of texting. Whether she notices/misses you is a good indication then of whether it is reciprocated.


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