Mundane Life

LegacyUser

Hi,
I am after a brilliant weekend at a wedding party with friends. I hadn't that much fun in a long time and now I'm struggling to recover emotionally/mentally after it.

I feel bored and a little depressed being back to 'normal' - back to daily 9-5 workday, mortgage, and general mundaneness of everyday life.
I felt great before this party and never thought a single weekend could have such an effect on me.

I met some interesting people there - one has decided to do a complete career change, which I found inspiring. Another asked me what my dream was when I was young. She is partly living her dream but mine is but a distant memory.

This got me thinking and I feel annoyed with myself. I'm in my early 30s and feel my 20s were wasted in a job I do not love and that I did not do what I wanted to do for fear of upsetting family, and the other half.
I feel I have now missed my glorious opportunity. I cannot possibly afford to go back to college now and change career.

I'm just hoping in a couple of more days I will feel fine again and begin to enjoy 'normality'!! I should just be grateful for what I have and appreciate this. But find it difficult to do so.

Thanks for listening

dearg lady

Don't think that you missed your only opportunity, there is always opportunities, but it may be a bit harder now. What about studying part time? Perhaps if you want to post up what are you would like to get into people could give more specific advice.

Torakx

Having a mundane life and a 9-5 can be tiring after many years alright.
On the flipside going the other direction might be risking losing certain securities.
There is always an opposite and equal reaction in my view..unless you find that balance between the two.

The advice in the post above mine seems very sound indeed.
Take the best of both worlds when and where you can.
Do more stuff that is different during your free time or things you have always wanted to try.

Your weekend away sounds like it was a very nice experience and simply reminded you of things you still havent finished.
Your only in your 30's.Good time as any to start your midlife crisis and have some fun while still keeping that security your 9-5 offers.

Part time courses are a saving grace if that is an option for you.
And there are lots of clubs and sports active after working hours im sure, aswell as weekends for people in the exact situation as yourself.

Johnny_BravoIII

You are only in your 30's.
You could be working well into your 60's/70's.
What would your 65 year old self tell you to do?

LegacyUser

Sounds like the monday blues have lasted a bit longer than usual. Often after a busy weekend of socialising and drinking, me and some of my friends experience what we like to call the monday blues. Sometimes thay can continue longer...

It's usually as a result of being tired and hungover. Everything seems boring and old and life is just miserable.

However, if a change in direction in your life has been on your mind for a while, and was given an extra kick after your weekend then you need to sit down and decide what it is that you want to do. Make a list of the things that you want to change and then see if it is possible to change. include your partner in these decisions.

If you want to go back to college part time to change career direction, now is a good time to start looking round as most courses start in sept, so you have a few months to sort yourself out. Maybe a credit union loan over a few years could fund this. There's loads of options out there...you just ahve to look for them

best of luck