Lonliness

Roaming

I am so lonely. My husband never speaks to me, never takes me out. Doesn't want people calling to house. Cancelled milk man and window cleaner. If I speak to post man he butts in and I have to walk away. He wonders why i visit my best friend so often (once every 3 or 4 weeks!) . I have just realised it is a full week since I spoke to a human being face to face. He insists I only go shopping ever two weeks or once a month. If anything is needed between times I have to tell him and he gets it. One would be better off in prison at least you would get to see people. I rely on pc and my world. Next the phone line will be cut off!

SunnyDub1

Hi op,

Sorry to hear how you are feeling.
Tbh with you your husband is a lot to blame, sounds extremely controlling and really not a nice person. In fact he is evil.

Do you love him ? Cause I think it's time for you to get out of your marriage. It's not right and it doesn't seem like you have much of a life. He is mentally bullying you. He has you Under some sort of house arrest. You need to get away from him. Please

I suggest you start a new life without him. You cant waste anymore time living like this. You have to live your life and he's not letting you do that.
Have you much family around you ? I suggest you get up and go and speak with a family member or a close friend about this , they can help you out and help you get trew this.

Please keep strong and take my advice. I really suggest you speak to someone close to you about this and try get away from him.

Herrick

Has your husband always been this way OP? Or is it something that's only started over the last while?

jam_mac_jam

Have you family or anybody else to speak to about this. This is not normal and you need to get out and you need to find a way to get away.

jimmycrackcorm

Op, is your husband actually locking you up? Otherwise why are you not going out and taking up a hobby or other activity?

BattleCorp

Get out and about, do whatever suits you. You are his wife, not his possession. He has no right to order you to do anything.

girl2

OP, is this a case of simply not letting you out or is there anything more going on?

Is there any abuse going on? (sorry if Im way off the mark, but usually these things are not done in isolation without other factors such as domestic violence). I think there is a very big control thing going on here and this is very very unhealthy.

The fact that you are not out working or seeing other people, socialising or talking to anyone, its no wonder whatsoever that you're so lonely.

If you feel safe enough (and brave enough), I would definitely start to do some socialising and get out of that house.

ibarelycare

This is abuse OP. You need to get away from this man. He is completely controlling and it sounds terrifying to me

Do you even love him? What sort of marriage do you have? Why are you still with him if this is how he treats you? Why do you allow him to control you so much?

Please get away ASAP. Tell your best friend or family what is going on. Go and stay with them.

edellc

Op I think I am right in saying your are not Irish so your culture would be different from here, however you live here and the law of the land applies regardless of where you and your hubby are originally from.

You are not a possession you are a human being a marriage is a partnership 50/50 your husband is out of order, you have two choices that I can see either you leave all as it is or stand up for yourself and take control....I know what I would be doing, you are the only person who controls what you do and where you go, sounds like you dont have your own financial means so that needs to change....do you have young kids??? if not could you apply for jobs or college even something to get your self esteem up, how are your finances (I'm not asking you to answer any of these questions on line but answer them to yourself) look at the positives about you and use them you need to get out into the community and stand up to your husband...can you talk to your friends about this as if you feel your marriage is over then you need to seek help in ending it and setting up alone which is a big scary thing but will improve your life so much, however if you love your husband and want it to work but for him not to be such a stone age pig then you need to learn how to assert yourself and take you control of your life

best of luck op I hope you find what your looking for xx