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Should I make a move?

  • 23-04-2012 9:55pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok so a I've recently started hanging out with a group of people I meet through a friend. There is one boy I've always found attractive, but I tend to be quite shy in groups so we don't talk that much or anything.

    A while ago I met him when we were both out. We spent a while talking and seemed to get on really well but unfortunately I had to leave early. My friend then started saying that she thought he might like me, just from the way he acted and I myself had noticed that he sometimes glanced at me but just assumed it was wishful thinking on my part.

    Fast forward a week or too, he added me on fb but nothing else had happened and the group of us still eat lunch together almost everyday (we're early 20s, in college). Then we went out for a friends birthday on Sat. I was totally sober but he was quite high by the time I got there. We spent most of the night alone together, not nessicerily by design it just happened. He gave me his jacket when I was cold, he bought me a drink, we sent most of the night linked arms, we spent ages dancing, we hugged, chatted etc. but still nothing happened (we didn't kiss or anything) and today at lunch it was back to normal.

    I'm starting to wonder if I should make some sort of a move or something? I he hadn't been high on Sat I would have been sure he liked me but everybody is affectionate when they're high and he's generally speaking an old-fashioned, chivalrous guy. So I'm confused! But on the other hand my friend now thinks he difinately likes me and is just beoing shy because he's never been good with girls.

    Also, I've been rejected/let down several times by men lately, so it's really knocked my confidence. I don't want to make a fool of myself, but if he does like me it seems like I'll be waiting forever for him to make a move. Any advice? Sorry it's such a trivial problem


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  • #2
    BBDBB
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,899 ✭✭✭✭BBDBB


    Judging by your description of his behaviour, he does like you and enjoys your company.
    He is probably shy, trying to build up the courage to make his move and equally fearful of rejection. He's sat wondering if you like him, whether he is going to make a fool of himself if he asks you out/makes a move.

    Just think, if neither of you make the move you will both die wondering what might have been..........

    good luck OP :)


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