whats her story?

walterwhite

right here goes.
i broke up with my girlfriend of 2 and a half years last september and while i thought it was for the best at the time i began to realise it may not have been.i was goin through a lot of stuff at the time and to be honest i needed to be on my own to sort it out.i broke up with her and i know this sounds like complete jealousy but i really missed her and wanted to get back with her but she refused and said it would not be fair on the new guy. i told her i still loved her and that i made a huge mistake and i would love to have her back and she knows that even though shes with the other guy i do still care about her and have feelings for her.i broke contact with her but every so often she will send a message or somethin else to see how i am doing when she could easily find out by other means!i rang her recently after testing back and forth (she made the initial contact) and she turned around and said to me that its not a good idea for us to be talking and its not fair on him. i said thats fair enough but im thinking why is she on the one hand making contact with me every so often and then on the other hand telling me that its not a great idea to be talking?the way she was on the phone then was hurtful when she said that i was an arrogant person and that she would only be friends with me on facebook when it suited her over the summer. she said she would upload pictures of a concert almost to rub my face in it!i did send her a facebook request and thought better of it so i withdrew it straight away. she said she declined it and pissed herself laughing afterwards....her words!what i want to know is she trying to hurt me?does she have any feelings for me apart from bitterness or she just missing with my head so she can make herself feel better?i would like to ring her up and ask her what her problem is with me?
to be honest im actually happy for her that shes happy.obviously i would love it if we were together but she knows how i feel and she doesnt want it but why is she so glad to put me down and make me feel bad?

LegacyUser

don't forget you dumped her. she's getting a bit of revenge I'd say

forget about her, move on. you should have ignored her texts, that would have made her a bit more eager but now she knows you want her back and she has a new man she's delighted that the tables have turned.

Crea

You hurt her and she is punishing you for it.
Best thing to do is to stop contact with her. You will never be friends as she is too bitter about the break-up. She is getting an ego boost knowing you're still willing to run after her. Time to stop.

rainbowtrout

walterwhite wrote: »

right here goes.
i broke up with my girlfriend of 2 and a half years last september and while i thought it was for the best at the time i began to realise it may not have been.i was goin through a lot of stuff at the time and to be honest i needed to be on my own to sort it out.i broke up with her and i know this sounds like complete jealousy but i really missed her and wanted to get back with her but she refused and said it would not be fair on the new guy. i told her i still loved her and that i made a huge mistake and i would love to have her back and she knows that even though shes with the other guy i do still care about her and have feelings for her.i broke contact with her but every so often she will send a message or somethin else to see how i am doing when she could easily find out by other means!i rang her recently after testing back and forth (she made the initial contact) and she turned around and said to me that its not a good idea for us to be talking and its not fair on him. i said thats fair enough but im thinking why is she on the one hand making contact with me every so often and then on the other hand telling me that its not a great idea to be talking?the way she was on the phone then was hurtful when she said that i was an arrogant person and that she would only be friends with me on facebook when it suited her over the summer. she said she would upload pictures of a concert almost to rub my face in it!i did send her a facebook request and thought better of it so i withdrew it straight away. she said she declined it and pissed herself laughing afterwards....her words!what i want to know is she trying to hurt me?does she have any feelings for me apart from bitterness or she just missing with my head so she can make herself feel better?i would like to ring her up and ask her what her problem is with me?
to be honest im actually happy for her that shes happy.obviously i would love it if we were together but she knows how i feel and she doesnt want it but why is she so glad to put me down and make me feel bad?

OP, regardless of what happened to cause the break up, what you have outlined above is not nice behaviour towards you. Who knows why she's behaving like that? It could be bitterness, it could be revenge to get back at you for breaking up with her, but either way you don't need this hassle in your life. You did ask her to get back together, she said no, now she's being nasty towards you. I'd cut contact, delete her number, don't contact her on facebook, and don't reply to any texts she sends, she said it wasn't fair on her boyfriend to be talking to you on the phone, yet she initiated the contact. She sounds like she's not quite over the break up and is being a headwrecker as a result. Stay well clear.

walterwhite

sincerely, thanks for the advice