meal time

countygorey

What would be the best way to find out the time the meal of a wedding invited too on saturday dont want to be here just on time for starter thanks

saa

Get in contact with the venue they must have the time of the booking.

countygorey

they would probly rather not say to get you early to buy more drinks

saa

Be persistent I can't imagine they will say no we're not going to tell you that as they shouldn't be worried about losing drink money from two customers who can't make it other wise and just want to be on time

countygorey

might try that

clint_silver

countygorey wrote: »

they would probly rather not say to get you early to buy more drinks

...or maybe they might tell you the time because they dont believe in being dishonest.

But even if they did lie and you get there at the earlied lied about time, when you find out, dont buy drinks in protest at their dishonesty.


If its a hotel in Ireland, you will be called between 5 and 6.

tatli_lokma

countygorey wrote: »

What would be the best way to find out the time the meal of a wedding invited too on saturday dont want to be here just on time for starter thanks

did the invitation not say what time to arrive? a bit strange that you would be invited to a wedding without a time attached.

or is it that you are not going to the ceremony and just heading in afterwards for the meal?

silly

Little Ted wrote: »

or is it that you are not going to the ceremony and just heading in afterwards for the meal?

Unless you have a valid reason - this is a very rude thing to do.

tatli_lokma

silly wrote: »

Unless you have a valid reason - this is a very rude thing to do.

thats what I was thinking, but I just wanted OP to clarify before I berrated them for it!

OP, can you explain why you would only be going to the meal and not to the ceremony? if this is what you are doing I assume you would have a VERY good reason? The most important part of the day is the ceremony, to be invited to that and not go, but to rock up at 5pm to the meal and party instead would be very poor form. By my reasoning you can either go to the wedding or you can't - if you can't make it for the ceremony, you don't go to the meal.

If it were a case you can't make the ceremony the more polite thing to do would be to thank the couple for the invite but turn it down, not take a meal and instead just come to the evening part at around 8.30/9.00.

countygorey

wont know many people there just him , worked for the him about 10 years ago

tatli_lokma

countygorey wrote: »

wont know many people there just him , worked for the him about 10 years ago

And???

are you not going to the ceremony for that reason? or is there another reason?

Sorry but not knowing anyone makes no difference whether you go to the ceremony or not. You've been invited to the wedding - obviously he thinks enough of you to invite you. If you are not invited plus one and feel uncomfortable, don't go. If you think enough of him to go to the meal then why would you be rude and not go to the ceremony? That doesn't make any sense whatsoever. Why would you feel more uncomfortable going to the ceremony but not the meal?

In fact if I felt particularly awkward I would be more inclined to go to the ceremony and not go to the meal, as it is at the meal when you will be expected to mingle and chat with people.

Plus if you already feel a bit self conscious, then you'll only feel more uncomfortable if someone notices you weren't at the ceremony and asks you why.

If the only reason you are avoiding the ceremony is because you don't know anyone then I think this is really bad form.

daymobrew

countygorey wrote: »

wont know many people there just him , worked for the him about 10 years ago

The ceremony is the important (and, IMO, the beautiful) part of the day. It's the part that is required for a marriage, the rest can be omitted.

You won't have to talk with anyone at the ceremony - everyone should be quiet, listening to the music and service.

silly

countygorey wrote: »

wont know many people there just him , worked for the him about 10 years ago

That is not a vaild excuse. Its rude to just go to the meal.
a couple will notice if someone is not at the church, as they meet everyone as they leave the church - where people congratulate them on their marriage.

To miss the actual marriage part of a wedding for no reason is not a very nice thing to do to the couple.

countygorey

no

Little Ted wrote: »

And???

are you not going to the ceremony for that reason? or is there another reason?

Sorry but not knowing anyone makes no difference whether you go to the ceremony or not. You've been invited to the wedding - obviously he thinks enough of you to invite you. If you are not invited plus one and feel uncomfortable, don't go. If you think enough of him to go to the meal then why would you be rude and not go to the ceremony? That doesn't make any sense whatsoever. Why would you feel more uncomfortable going to the ceremony but not the meal?

In fact if I felt particularly awkward I would be more inclined to go to the ceremony and not go to the meal, as it is at the meal when you will be expected to mingle and chat with people.

Plus if you already feel a bit self conscious, then you'll only feel more uncomfortable if someone notices you weren't at the ceremony and asks you why.

If the only reason you are avoiding the ceremony is because you don't know anyone then I think this is really bad form.

countygorey

no

daymobrew wrote: »

The ceremony is the important (and, IMO, the beautiful) part of the day. It's the part that is required for a marriage, the rest can be omitted.

You won't have to talk with anyone at the ceremony - everyone should be quiet, listening to the music and service.

countygorey

no

silly wrote: »

That is not a vaild excuse. Its rude to just go to the meal.
a couple will notice if someone is not at the church, as they meet everyone as they leave the church - where people congratulate them on their marriage.

To miss the actual marriage part of a wedding for no reason is not a very nice thing to do to the couple.

tatli_lokma

no no no what?

No, as in you are not avoiding the ceremony because you don't know anyone else, there is another valid reason?

No, as in there is no other valid reason other than you not knowing anyone

No, as in its not rude.

From your comment about the hotel lying to you to get you there earlier, to the not knowing anyone comment and now the inexplicable no's, I'm starting to think you are trolling

Sleepy

I'd say clearly just lacking in manners in general tbh. Wouldn't his mammy be proud? :rolleyes: