How to be single?

LegacyUser

Hi everyone, looking for a bit of advice.

I was going out with a guy from an early age for a good few years. We broke up last year because I didn't love him anymore and things were not good and I wanted to meet new people and do new things.

A few weeks after I broke up with him I started placement for my course, which lasted for 6 weeks. After this I met a guy on a night out.

We had been seeing each other for a few months until last week. That ended for numerous reasons, mainly because we were wanted different things. I'm kind of already over it.

The thing is, I don't know how to be single. I haven't really been single since I was 16 apart from those few weeks last year. I'm 24.

I've only been single for a few days and already I'm thinking about needing to meet someone. How to do I get out of this relationship cycle?

I think I am a relationship person, but I need a break from it.

Mods, apologies if this is better suited to Personal Issues, I wasn't sure myself

roro_utd

Hey, I'm just out of a 3 and a half year relationship and I had the same feeling as you. Kinda just that desire to be with someone, because you're not used to being on your own. If you want a period being single, there are advantages to it, try list them. The ones I could think of for myself are more freedom and independance. You get to know yourself better. You get to spend waaay more time with friends. You don't have to tolerate another person's annoying habits/bitching. Thinking of all these advantages has helped me to realise that being single is in fact a good thing, I'm still slightly hurting because of my breakup and the way it happened but that's another story for a different day. Just be positive and realise there are very good things about the single life.

R.D. aka MR.D

List anything about yourself you would like to change and work on it.

Basically work at making yourself a better person.

After I came out of a nearly 4 yr relationship I made a promise I would be single for 5 years before I would be involved with anyone. (that was two years ago, met some one recently though )

But in the 2 years I was single I managed to accomplish a lot. Training for a half marathon, working on improving my spanish, change of career!!!

Whatever it is work on some thing to improve yourself and you'll realise you don't need anyone.

SunnyDub1

Hi Op,

I'm recently only out of a 4 yr relationship. While I was heat broken at the start I've moved on with my life. At the start all I wanted was another relationship or for him to take me back. It's naturally to feel like that, If you give your self the right space and do the right things this will fade.

Now (months later) I'm happy to be single and don't want to change that (not for a while anyway )

It sounds like you just came out of your first relationship and jumped straight into another, You didn't give yourself much "me" time.

Use the "single life" as an advantage..
I started to look after myself more, joined a gym, ate healthy, booked a long trip, made more time for my family and Friends and started socializing more with friends.

Theres nothing better then the feeling of "own Independence"

You need to start spending more time with friends and getting use to living life young and free, you are only young (like myself) you have so much time a head of you before settling down.