Is the George the only place to go~?

willing2try

Hi All,

Mods please feel free to move/delete this thread if it makes the suits mad

We are looking to find a good venue for myself and my partner to go out in Dublin in a few weeks. One of us is bi-curious and we've heard that the bouncers on the door at the George are a little flippant when it comes to policy on girl/guy couples. We would be terribly embarrassed if we try to walk in and get stopped (exploring this side of our relationship is new)

We want to go somewhere as a couple, enjoy being a couple but with the chance of meeting someone fun etc etc and from reading several posts on here we are a little nervous about how guy/gal couples get treated. (One post refs a Cork pub)

Can anyone recommend somewhere for us to go? I am probably not making sense of what we are trying to say but hopefully someone gets it lol.

baby and crumble

I'm going to be honest here, OP, going to gay venues to pick up someone for a mixed gender threesome is not a great idea. I understand that you're genuine about exploring that side of your relationship which is cool, but a lot of couples go to gay bars to pick up someone for a threesome, and from being around the scene for a while, I rarely see it going well. You might be better putting up a personal ad or checking websites for someone else who is looking for this specifically.

willing2try

tbh we weren't really going to pick up anyone for a threesome, we were just going to have a good time. Whilst one of us is bi-curious you'd immediately shouldn't assume that means a threesome is whats wanted. while we want to have some its more for one of us to explore that side of who we are as a an individual and as a couple.

We just want to experience the scene, become a little more familiar with it and now we're discussing something other that what we originally posted.

Babybuff

If someone is bi curious is usually something they figure out by themselves.

edit: would love to know what it is you're willing to try in fairness.

stephen_n

In answer to your original post theres the Front Lounge and Dragon both of which have no issues with couples going in, you'll probably have it pointed out that it's an gay friendly venue just in case you miss the pride flag but you certainly wont be stopped from entering either venue. Front is a bit more relaxed pub with music kind of place and Dragon is more of a club with dance music so it depends on what your looking for.

baby and crumble

willing2try wrote: »

tbh we weren't really going to pick up anyone for a threesome, we were just going to have a good time. Whilst one of us is bi-curious you'd immediately shouldn't assume that means a threesome is whats wanted. while we want to have some its more for one of us to explore that side of who we are as a an individual and as a couple.

We just want to experience the scene, become a little more familiar with it and now we're discussing something other that what we originally posted.

Well to be fair you did say you wanted to "meet someone fun etc etc" and well... Perhaps I made an assumption. If you're looking to go and have fun around other gay/ bisexual people then you should check out the listings in magazines/ websites like Gaire, GCN, QueerID, etc.

willing2try

Thanks Stephen.

Its nice to get the advice you asked for. We didn't mean for this to turn into a mis- interpretation fayre where flags get flown cheers.

We are going to both places you've suggested

Hamhide

yeh the front lounge is great,i'd prefer it from the george or the dragon any day

Babybuff

yeah.

oisindoyle

Theres the Front Lounge ,PantiBar,The George ,The Dragon....
why not try them all ?

stephen_n

willing2try wrote: »

Thanks Stephen.

Its nice to get the advice you asked for. We didn't mean for this to turn into a mis- interpretation fayre where flags get flown cheers.

We are going to both places you've suggested

In fairness a lot of posters do come in looking for hook up partners to check out their sexuality and I think it was a simple mistake on B&C's part. Hope you enjoy which ever venue you end up in!

Babybuff

I dunno, I think B&C is on the money. There's no shortage of "couples" going out to gay bars seeking to find a partner who can fulfill some kind of male gratification by having him watch his missus with another woman or creaming off to the thought. Most women will rightly tell them to F off. There's more than likely kink/swingers clubs out there which should cater to their needs. It's got nothing to do with orientation and everything to do with preference.
(and if one of them happens to be bi it sort of suggests they feel that bi means having both at once, as they are already obviously in a relationship..and feeds into the bi's are just greedy, equal opportunities stereotype) I'd tell them to fcuk off anyway.

stephen_n

Well you can't really go and tar every poster with the same brush can you? It's a fairly judgmental to decide that you know anyone's motivations but you obviously think in all cases male partners are just looking to get their rocks off allowing their partners to act out female attractions! The original post only referred very vaguely to meeting up with anyone at all but you have managed to create a very large back story from that!

Babybuff

I try, I really do to keep an open mind. Maybe he's the one looking to engage his curiosity with another guy, I just wouldn't know too many women who would be that willing to entertain their bf bi desires in that case. Could be wrong though.
(also I had a bad night last night and encountered more than one straight male looking to get his rocks off with women in a gay bar while simultaneously dissing all the gay men there, which is incorrigible behaviour however you look at it )

willing2try

Thanks everyone, probably best to close this post down now before Ms Buff and B&C get a chance to jump to further conclusions.

I really don't want to start an argument on here but if the straight community approached a request from the gay community with the same hostility and presumptions, you would not take it lightly....

stereotyping works both ways. Neither way is fair

stephen_n

Babybuff wrote: »

I try, I really do to keep an open mind. Maybe he's the one looking to engage his curiosity with another guy, I just wouldn't know too many women who would be that willing to entertain their bf bi desires in that case. Could be wrong though.
(also I had a bad night last night and encountered more than one straight male looking to get his rocks off with women in a gay bar while simultaneously dissing all the gay men there, which is incorrigible behaviour however you look at it )

I think men are the problem tbh

As I said originally there is a lot of posts that come up on here that are looking for exactly what you suggested and that's why BC and yourself could easily be excused for thinking that way. I suppose though you kind of have to take people by there word though as it's only the internet.

Babybuff

I'm sorry, I feel like I'm missing part of the equation and I probably am jumping to conclusions. If a straight couple want to go to a gay bar for a night out I don't see the problem, just go and have a good time. I'm trying to get my head around going as a couple to explore one or the others bisexuality together. If you or your partner are bisexual by all means be bisexual and proud, I just don't understand the need to have that "curiosity" addressed while currently in a relationship. It does suggest one or both of you are looking to fulfill a need, and as both of you want to "explore together" it does lend itself to the idea of a threesome or multiple partner fun times. If that's what you'e into feel free to indulge, I just wouldn't be expecting so much enthusiasm from the patrons of a gay bar to help you out there. Particularly if it interferes with their prerogative. (avoiding being sexually exploited by members of the opposite sex)

If I did reverse it as suggested and I or my (imaginary) partner decided we wanted to go and check out the straighties because we were feeling we needed to explore our straightness (can't believe I actually said that) I'd say seeya love, you know where the cock is.

willing2try

Well congrats Baby - you have turned the post around from an honest question on where to go into a Babybuff platform...

Anything you want to get off your chest? your problems have now been aired in someone else post.... Frankly I fail to see what you and your imaginary partner combined with you telling her 'ya know where the cock is' as got to do with an innocent request regarding info on places to go.

I am worse for engaging you but for someone who knows nothing about either of us you have just shown your true colours and I would go so far as to say thats it's YOU who has the problem...

Annasopra

I think this thread is now just derailing into anatagonism