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Work dilemma - am I being a wimp?

  • 11-04-2012 5:36pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Usual messy night out, scored a lad from work. It's been brewing for a long time, probably a year. Nothing happened because there was always someone else in the equation, we've never, ever talked about it but we get on like a house on fire and always have a good bit of craic together.

    Now that is what I think, I may very well have actually overestimated what's going on here, and it mightn't be as mutual a thing as I'd like to think it is.... maybe...

    So I initiated a bit of texting over the weekend, nothing major, just a bit of over and back. I was the last one to text. FF to work today and all seems fine, he pops over to me and we're talking away as normal and it appears to me that he is quite happy to let this thing go under the radar and forget about it. I quite like him though and wouldn't mind maybe seeing if more might come of it. I'd kind of decided that I wasn't going to pursue it any further because of, what I interpreted as disinterest, the working together complication and also the fact that neither of us have been angels at work (there have been a few kisses here and there with other colleagues over the years on both our parts) and in my head I figured move on and keep it out of the office.

    A mutual friend though has given out to me saying that I shouldn't be such a wimp and that just because he hasn't shot straight in there with a suggestion of a date doesn't mean he's not interested, that maybe he's got the same reservations as I do and why the hell don't I stop living in ancient times and come out with it myself, it's not like girls can't make the first move. Trouble is, I did the office thing before so I'm very wary. My question is - have I really not shown enough interest by initiating texts over the weekend and a bit of emailing in the office? Like am I really supposed to say the words 'would you like to go for a drink' and at what point am I just not reading the signs as opposed to being proactive?

    Thoughts anyone?


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  • #2
    Elmidena
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,570 ✭✭✭Elmidena


    Bite the bullet and ask him if he wants to take it further or write it off as a messy night. If it works out you'll feel proud of yourself for taking the plunge, and if it doesn't it's got to be a better alternative to this uncertainty and "what-ifs" you currently have. Your pride may take a knock but you'd be able to draw a line under it and know for certain one way or the other, whether he's interested but bad idea for work, or he just likes being mates and doesn't want to hurt you or risk friendship etc. Good luck :)


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