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Stepping up from "meeting" to a relationship

  • 09-04-2012 11:10pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I've never been in a proper relationship before, and fot the past couple of months ive been getting close with a friend with benifits that i have. we text a lot of the time, meet up and sleep together every night we head out and meet up, and we hav had the odd date of going for a drink, cinema a few times

    so since there's not much of the college year left i said feck it Ill ask her out and try a relationship for awhile to because one has to learn somewhere! that was there last week.

    so anyway were on Easter break now so i have a bit of time to re cooperate and have a stab at the relationship but i dont really know what im suppose to do noe that i have a girlfriend. ie the step up from the meeting stage to the relationship stage

    for example i dont really know what im expected to do! do i spend most evenings in her house like other couple our age do?

    am i supposed to ring her or text her every day that we dont meet up?

    and am i suppose to take her out to dinner, walk her to her lectures, do x, y and z now that were going out?

    Im afraid that im either gona come on too strong or look as if im showing no interest and either way the whole thing will fall apart.

    any advice?


Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,131 ✭✭✭Idle Passerby


    There is nothing you "supposed" to do apart from be nice to her and treat her with respect. Do you want to spend every evening at her house? Do you want to walk with her to and from class? Do what you feel most comfortable with.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,570 ✭✭✭Elmidena


    You're meant to relax and go with the flow; as a rule of thumb girls aren't impressed with anxiety so just go with what feels right to you...she'll soon let you know if it's weird or whatnot! But there's no point doing anything for the sake of doing it, a hollow start to a relationship like that isn't a good one.


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