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Gave my heart away

  • 09-04-2012 6:08pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I dont want to go into any details, am late 20s - I gave my heart away to a guy and he didnt want it - totally 100% rejected me. I know time is the only thing that can heal it, but am a real mess right now and can stop crying for the last week. Ive been going to work, Ive been out twice. Im trying to keep busy, but am so upset I could cry a few times a day. Ive had break ups before, but I feel like I lost someone very special to me. They dont care about my broken and sad heart. Even when am in a room full of people, I feel lonesome and sad that Ill probably never see or speak to this person again. The crazu urge to contact him is becoming unbearable. I want him to realise how much I like him, but Id only end up looking like a fool or looser. Just want the emotional pain to stop.


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  • #2
    Anny Hall
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21 ✭Anny Hall


    Gave my heart away wrote: »
    I dont want to go into any details, am late 20s - I gave my heart away to a guy and he didnt want it - totally 100% rejected me. I know time is the only thing that can heal it, but am a real mess right now and can stop crying for the last week. Ive been going to work, Ive been out twice. Im trying to keep busy, but am so upset I could cry a few times a day. Ive had break ups before, but I feel like I lost someone very special to me. They dont care about my broken and sad heart. Even when am in a room full of people, I feel lonesome and sad that Ill probably never see or speak to this person again. The crazu urge to contact him is becoming unbearable. I want him to realise how much I like him, but Id only end up looking like a fool or looser. Just want the emotional pain to stop.

    Hi Op,

    Am so sorry for what you are going through. I think all of us have gone through similar at some stage and it is never easy. Right now you probably think that you will never experience happiness and joy again but believe me you will in time.

    What you are experiencing is the pain of rejection and that pain cuts us to the core. It tells us that we are not good enough, that we did something wrong, that we should be different etc. That is just the rejection talking and none of it is true.

    Also when we break up with someone we miss them being around, their presence, the routines etc that always brings great loss.

    You didn't give any details of your break up so I can't comment but I take it you opened up and fell for someone who dumped you or didn't feel the same. That is hard to take but you will get through it in time. Right now you just want the person back and the pain to stop and probably can't think rationally.

    I know that urge to want to contact but I would advise not and won't allow you to heal. Cry get it out, scream, write it down, write texts that you don't send, talk to your friends whatever.

    It takes time and unfortunately no way to fast forward pain. Just try accept that you feel crap at the moment and may do for a while but it will get better. Trust me on that and the feelings that this guy was the one or special will diminish in time. Some people take longer to get over and play on our minds for a while.

    I hope things get better OP. That emotional pain is hell, but will pass. Be kind and gentle to yourself.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hey, I know exactly how you feel...I was in the same place a few months ago. You said you gave this person your heart and you were rejected. So they know how you feel already then? But you say you want to contact him to tell him how you feel again. There is probably no point if you know he doesn't feel the same. If he knows how you feel and he felt the same would he contact you?
    If you contact him again and get rejected again, could you handle it? Would it be enough for you to understand that he doesn't want the same things you want?
    I know it is hard at this stage as you are living in hope. It is an awful place to be in. The only way to do it is to take it one day at a time and move towards acceptance. You will eventually get over it and find someone who is more deserving of your heart. Take it back from the rejecting one and nurse it back to health. Thinking about what should have been is hard and hard not to do. So make sure you are not left with too much time to think and find things to keep busy with. You will feel yourself getting better some days, others not so much but you will get there.


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