communal showers

LegacyUser

Going anon here for obvious reasons...

I'm a 21 year old guy and after about a 5-year break, I'm re-joining my rugby club, something I've been putting off for a while. The team is made up of guys around my age, some who I don't know, some friends etc.

What I'm worried about is the showers; the team always shower together after training and matches, and most days I'll have to do this, because I have work and other stuff on afterwards.

What worries me is the size of my penis. I've looked up average size online, and if I'm honeset, I'm pretty tiny The thoughts of other lads seeing it and slagging me or other people finding out is unberable. It's really making me reconsider whether I should go back playing or not. But I really do want to play, it's quite a social club, and I've really missed playing over the last few years.

I dunno what I'm asking for on here really, advice? any other small guys experienced anything like this?

I'm not a guy so I know I probably can't understand how you're feeling.

What I will say though, is that you shouldn't let how you feel about your penis stop you from doing what you want, and you certainly shouldn't let it make you feel like you have something to hide. You'll be in a room with a load of naked guys; I'm sure that everyone starts off insecure, and over time you get more used to it.

On a more practical note, if it was me and someone said something, I'd either say:
"It's a grow-er, not a show-er" Followed by a wink.

or

"Why are you checking out lads in the showers?"

Few points:

it's rare that guys actually check each other's junk out when they're in the shower. Don't worry. Also don't worry about size - chances are that while they are in the shower, they're going to be flaccid and not aroused, so size wouldn't be an issue.

Also, I'd be genuinely surprised and really uncomfortable if any other guy commented on my penis while I was in a communal shower.

LegacyUser

Just to second boneyarsebogman.
I wouldn't worry too much. I've played sports and I use the gym. And I can honestly say I've never felt to urge to check out any guys and I have certainly never had anyone check me out.

To be honest, if someone in a group of lads were to actually look at someone else's penis in the shower and make a comment it would be him getting the slagging, not you. Most guys will be going out of their way NOT to look at anyone elses lad so really don't worry.

As far as the size things goes, I also wouldn't worry, guys talk a lot of ****e about these things talking themselves up, it's all bull.

LegacyUser

OP here again. Thanks for the replies.

With regards to size, it's not just that I'm a little below average, it's unfortunately very noticeable, flaccid there's nothing really there. I know nobody is gonna be deliberately checking out my bits, but obviously people will see.

I'd find comments from guys I don't know very weird aswell. It's more about my mates, I know they would never intentionally be cruel, but I could easily see them picking up on it. Even if they didn't, I'd find it a bit awkward just them knowing how just how small it is, even if they didn't say anything.

dev100

It's like this you will get to a certain age and you realise you have what you have and that's it you can't possibly change that fact. I used to hate communal showers but now it's a case of I'd rather have a shower there and then than travel home stinking of BO.

LegacyUser

having used communal showers since my mid teens for the last 25 years, I don't think (a) that I've ever checked someone else out or (b) even glimpsed one hundreth of the cocks I've been around... Seriously, it just doesn't happen or (c) had anyone even looking down there when standing drying myself in full view.

And even if I saw a cock in a shower I don't think I'd think to myself "man, his cock is really small" and even if I did I sure wouldn't go chatting to anyone else about the size of another lad's junk!!

Do not let it prevent you from going back playing.

Overheal

There was only one guy in the locker rooms who ever made a show of dick talk or towel-slaps. He had an unfortunate last name though [Geoghan I think], and within a few weeks we all had instilled a number of doubts in his head until he eventually shut the hell up.

My only other experiences with group locker rooms have been strangely positive. A group of friends and I would go to the gym every week and even though I was the fat guy we all did good to support each other with weights and fitness and everything else. Never had to have a conversation about willies though.

Aside from a few outward people that might be trying to hide their insecurities you'll probably find most guys in the locker room don't give a ****.

leeroybrown

You sometimes get a bit of banter in changing rooms about stuff like that but it's all in jest and nothing to worry about. Most lads are used to communal showers but I'd bet that you're not the only one there who's uncomfortable about it. The worst thing you could do is try to hide as this will seem a bit strange and might get you slagged.

I've one friend who (even by his own admission) has a fairly small penis. The good thing with him is that he doesn't let it bother him one bit. The second it's not a problem it's not worth the effort of a wind up anymore.