I am falling for you

LegacyUser

Told a guy I am going out with for 3 months that I am falling for him, he responded with nothing. I am now totally embaressed, I usually do not fall for people easily but I really like him. I now feel as if he is not into the whole thing as much as me...should I end things before I get more involved or wait and see how things go because we do get on really well? Opinions please

I am a friend

Why would you dump him?

jellyboy

are you scared that he will reject you and your telling him that you are falling for him?

If so try not to allow the fear of rejection to shut the opening of your heart,your in a very beautiful moment...embrace the uncertainty..

Love favors the brave...

Lorna123

Falling1987 wrote: »

Told a guy I am going out with for 3 months that I am falling for him, he responded with nothing. I am now totally embaressed, I usually do not fall for people easily but I really like him. I now feel as if he is not into the whole thing as much as me...should I end things before I get more involved or wait and see how things go because we do get on really well? Opinions please

I would be like you, and I would be embarrassed if he said nothing back. To me that would mean that he is not falling for me. I would be backing off if it were me, but that doesn't mean that I am advising you to do that. Just be aware that this relationship may not work out and I would not be placing all my eggs in one basket. That's just me. When a person is attracted to another person it shows and they want to tell the other person how they feel, just like you did. This guy obviously does not feel the same as you do, so just take it easy. However, on the other hand, he now knows how you feel about him and if he were a decent guy he would let you go if he doesn't feel the same about you. If he stays with you he might be thinking that things could grow, but is that good enough for you?Best of Luck.

P. Breathnach

It's a bit much to hope that people fall for one another at exactly the same pace. The fact that he might not be ready to declare yet does not mean that the situation is hopeless.

If he is a good guy (and I am sure that you believe that he is) he should reflect on what you said. If he thinks that you are not the girl for him, he should extricate himself from the situation as considerately as he can manage.

Yes, you are now a bit embarrassed. So what? You didn't do anything wrong, and neither did he. It's just a situation that has arisen.

Hang in there for a while and check if your feelings are reciprocated.

R.D. aka MR.D

Don't be embarrassed! You did what felt right.

Don't break up with him but maybe cool off a little bit and play things my ear to see what happens.

I once told a guy I loved him and he didn't say it back and I was mortified but eventually it turned out that the reason he didn't say it back was because he felt like if he said that he was making some huge commitment to me. We were together for 4 years after that!!!

So sometimes guys just have strange/different ideas than girls do about relationships!

A guy told me he was falling for me once, I said nothing back to him about it. It wasn't because I didn't feel the same way, it's just that I didn't think it was a situation that required me to say it back.


We each said "I love you" about a month after that and are still together.

OP I really wouldn't read into him not saying it back.

G-Money

I've never had that exact line said to me but a girl I was seeing one time said something along those lines and I didn't really know how to respond. I liked her, but I wasn't sure how much and I wasn't sure if things were going to go the distance. So I didn't want to say something back to her just for the sake of it. I wanted to wait until I genuinely felt the same way.

As it turned out though, we stopped seeing each other a while later, so in my case, perhaps the writing was on the wall at that point.

ihsb

This could have been written by me four months again. I stuck with it. And when I couldn't take anymore of being the person more exposed and invested in the relationship and was about to break up with him. He said it.

People don't fall for each other at the same rate. It sucks but stay with it as long as you are comfortable. He might be starting to feel it already but might not be comfortable with saying it yet.

Good luck OP

dr gonzo

I understand your embarrassment OP but ultimately, is it not better that the guy doesnt say it if he doesnt yet feel it rather then say it because he feels he should or merely because he knows its what you want to hear?

As others have said, people move at different paces in relationships and it would be harsh for you to say it and then just break anything off because he hadnt come to the same conclusion simultaneously or before you. Give it time. you have no reason to be embarrassed.

Overheal

Give it some time, if this only just happened the other day the response might take a little while to develop. The important things in life are best slept on. A lot.