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Dislike family but stuck at home.....what to do?

  • 04-04-2012 11:12pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'll keep this as brief as i can. i'm 23 male and have been living at home all my life. i have never got along with my father for various reasons that i won't go into here, lets just say i have very little respect for him and he has done nothing but verbally abuse me from a young age. Anyway the problem is i have a strong dislike of my parents and little brother.

    I don't like the way they carry on and the constant tantrums from my brother do not help. its the same everyday and has been as far back as i can remember. Tonight was another altercation between me and them and i have finally decided to cut all ties with them. Problem is i have nowhere to go for the immediate future so how do i deal with them?? How do i deal with it in my head? Is it as easy as just ignore them?

    Probably difficult question to answer but any input would be great as i have no one really to talk to here.


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  • #2
    cafecolour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    Sorry, why can't you move out? Even if you don't have a job, you don't qualify for the dole? It's enough to rent a room on and subsist on. It might not be fun, but it's worth your sanity.


  • #3
    The Big Red Button
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,390 ✭✭✭The Big Red Button


    cafecolour wrote: »
    Sorry, why can't you move out? Even if you don't have a job, you don't qualify for the dole? It's enough to rent a room on and subsist on. It might not be fun, but it's worth your sanity.

    Exactly. I have seen so many posts on Boards about "adults" living at home, and constantly b*tching about the situation. Do you really think that your parents foresaw that you'd still be living at home at your age? Do you really think that they're entirely happy with the situation, themselves?

    Grow up, be independent, move out. It's Ireland, you'll get rent allowance, JSA/JSB, medical card, etc. I know it can't be a nice feeling to rely on the state to pay for your living expenses (although I haven't been in that situation myself) ... but I know that, personally, I'd rather be getting money from the government than relying on my parents for it! Particularly if I didn't get on well with them!

    They've done enough for you to get you this far in life. Do yourself and your parents a favour, and just move out. (You may find that relations with your family might rapidly improve when you do so! :) )


  • #4
    SunnyDub1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,439 ✭✭✭SunnyDub1


    If you can't afford to move out - set your bedroom room as your own little room that you'll feel comfortable in.

    I don't know how big your room is but id recommend doing the following -

    Get a tv in with with all the Chanel's (so you will have plenty to watch day or night)
    get a small chair to sit/flake on watch tv on
    get a mini fridge.
    etc etc
    basically set it up as little living area and not just a room you sleep in. More **** you have in your room the less of the house of have to use....

    This way you wont have to see much of them except when your entering existing the house or making food..

    Just try and avoid them as much as you can :)


  • #5
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    I agree, you should pop down to your local social welfare office and see what you can actually qualify for. Because you've been living at home, you'll be seen as being a dependent adult - though I can't be fully sure on that so make sure you get the information from there. But don't use this as your only means of survival - also look for a job to support yourself.


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