Ammm..

LegacyUser

Ok, so I'm a 24 year old girl living in Waterford with my best friend and her sister. So I was going away for the weekend last week and left early on the friday, my best friend, Laura, had gone home on the Thursday. Her sister though, Jen, was staying on her own in the house until Sunday.

So I finally arrived back at my house in Waterford on Sunday night about 11.30 pm. I walked in to the empty house to find the side door open and writing on the wall of the hallway. So naturally I was freaked out and I decided to lock the door (as it leads to the garden and I was afraid there was someone out there). So I checked all the rooms in the house and nothing was taken and there was nobody there but I was still uneasy so I went to stay with my cousin and I rang Laura to tell her what happened. She couldn't believe it, said she would have panicked too and thought maybe it was our landlord. So I asked her just to check with Jen first to make sure it wasn't just a mistake and she said no defo wasn't her.

I rang my landlord the next morning and it wasn't him. I actually went back to the house then and saw loads of half smoked cigs outside the door and a half empty bottle of rum. Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure this one out. She I rang Laura and said it to her and she got very defensive. I said I wasn't impressed and to get Jen to ring me when she comes home (she was moving out last weekend). Neither one has mentioned it to me since. Laura is acting totally normal. So I was like whatever, it's not Lauras fault and I won't have it ruin a friendship, let it go.

But when I checked all the rooms in the house Sunday, I noticed something in Jen's room. There was an envelope on the bed with all our names on it, so naturally I looked. It was from the girls friend, Amy, who had been staying with us a lot during the year. It had a decent sum of money in it and a note saying she really appreciated it so it was just a contribution and also to enjoy the rum. At the time I was too panicked to even think about it it just went out of my head again.

When my friend came back though she pocketed the money and said nothing to me. Just that Amy had left in a bottle of rum for herself and Jen.

I haven't said anything to her and to be honest I don't plan to. I just can't look at her in the same way though. She's suppose to be my best friend, and I genuinely would do anything for the girl, but I dunno, obviously the friendship is worth more to me than her.

LittleBook

Wrapp wrote: »

Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure this one out.

I'm no rocket scientist so I may need a little help ...

Jen denies it was she who left the door open but half bottle of rum and loads of fag ends you found outside the door leads you to believe that it was Jen who left the door open as she was sitting there smoking and drinking rum. You rang Laura and said this to her and Laura defended her sister.

So ... you're annoyed with Jen for (accidentally?) leaving the side door open and with Laura for defending her.

These things happen, she no longer lives there, nothing more to worry about. And maybe Laura genuinely believes her sister is telling the truth ... maybe JEN believes she's telling the truth, half a bottle of rum can cloud your memory.

Laura eventually comes home and (not realising you'd seen the money Amy left?) says nothing about it, just that Amy had left a bottle of rum for her and her sister.

So ... ask Laura what happened to the money in the envelope that Amy left. Deal with the situation based on her response.

If Laura's half as confused as I am (and half as good a friend as you say she is) this whole thing could be a complete misunderstanding.

solovely

I haven't said anything to her and to be honest I don't plan to

Why? I don't understand why you would just sit by if you know for a fact she has taken money that was meant to be shared with you, and not say anything? Why would you let yourself be walked all over. It's the typical Irish Joe Duffy thing, say nothing face to face, but go rant on the internet about it instead.

If you're really afraid of confrontation, ask can you have a sit down chat, get some crisps, make it nice. Say to Laura, now that jen has moved out, you'd like to have a chat about the way things are done in future. Make some ground rules, don't let yourself be a walkover. If you decide to say about the money, ask her first about the note, if she admits to it, tell her how hurt you are, don't accuse her of stealing from you.

I'm a little confused with everything also, so if you are talking to Laura about it, try be clear. What's the story with the writing on the wall? Are you saying Jen had a party and wrote on the wall? You need to get all this out in the open!

Faith

WRT the money, I'd say you found a note that Amy had left in your room, thanking you all for the hospitality, and saying that she'd left some money for you all in Jen's room as a contribution, along with the rum. I'd very innocently say "Did you find that in Jen's room? I haven't been in there" or whatever.

Regarding the rest of it, I'm confused like the others are about the actual issue.