Girlfriend is married

LegacyUser

Ok, My Girlfriend is married and has been for 10 years but split with her husband about 7-8 years ago...amicable split no kids no complications or anything like that. I want to marry this woman I love her and i entendd to propose, once i made this clear to her she started the divorce procedings and it has been going well...but now we have hot a snag

He has to pay one more installment on his side but no he saying he doesn't have the money, I know form what she has told me is that he is a chornic liar( she isn't bitter and always has good stuff to say about him too so i know she isn't making it up). She is suggesting we pay it and then he will give us the money back its about 250 euro. But i get the impression that we will never see this money if we pay it.

I know 250 isn't too much money but i just don't see hwy i should be paying it when this divorce should have gone through way before she met me...

Advice?

Beruthiel

If it was 2k, then I'd be waiting until he paid.
But, it €250.
Personally, I'd pay it just to be able to put the whole thing behind me and get on with my life.
Certainly, there's no point getting into a tizzy over it. Especially if you have plans on proposing.

username123

Seriously, do you want to marry this woman or not?

Pay it and stop pontificating on when the divorce SHOULD have gone through. Its going through now due to your declaration of intent - just pay the 250 and move on.

AnonoBoy

Yer man's probably delaying because he knows it'll p*ss you off.

Guess what? He's winning.

Just pay the money and forget about it.

LegacyUser

what does he get for his 250, nothing really so why should he bother. Its down to you really. Is she worth the €250?

blackbird98

I don't think you should be marrying her!! You have a woman that you love and intend to marry, but you don't want to part with €250 to get rid of her ex??

not a great basis for a long term relationship imho

Pandora2

I was still married, some 10 years after a judicial separation, when my now O/H proposed.

I went down the DIY route and my fiancee whipped his cheque book out a number of times for legal fees. I am sure he would have preferred not to but he made it clear that if this was the obstacle in our relationship, he would do anything to remove it.....said a lot about his sincerity and how he felt about me.

€250 = Woman you wish to spend rest of your life with...it's a no brainer, forget about the ex...he is of no consequence in this scenario!!

zxcvbnm1

TOBEWED? wrote: »

Ok, My Girlfriend is married and has been for 10 years but split with her husband about 7-8 years ago...amicable split no kids no complications or anything like that. I want to marry this woman I love her and i entendd to propose, once i made this clear to her she started the divorce procedings and it has been going well...but now we have hot a snag

He has to pay one more installment on his side but no he saying he doesn't have the money, I know form what she has told me is that he is a chornic liar( she isn't bitter and always has good stuff to say about him too so i know she isn't making it up). She is suggesting we pay it and then he will give us the money back its about 250 euro. But i get the impression that we will never see this money if we pay it.

I know 250 isn't too much money but i just don't see hwy i should be paying it when this divorce should have gone through way before she met me...

Advice?

Are you for real ? You say it's not about the money but it clearly is. Seriously dude - how tight are you?

Just pay the cash !

Seriously - talk about unnecessarily drawing grief on yourself.
Absolutely bizarre behaviour of the highest order.

LegacyUser

Ok well thanks for yer advice.
I paid the money so hopefully now we get a date soon and we can put it to bed...

cheers guys

Glad to hear it's sorted OP