make of this what you will....

cactuspaw

ok, was out the other night, friend had a few other friends up and I said I'd go out coz I had no work the next day. anyway, twas the first time meeting some of the new people. half way through the night friend explained one of them was interested in me. i was very flattered, seriously thought the dude was out of my league. anyway, i decided it would be awkward coz he was stayin in ours and i figured he's expect more then just the shift and i decided to let the moment pass. when we got home, friends "disappeared" and left me with him, i decided, aw to hell with it and flirted me arse off, but nothing happened. instead of tryin it on the guy litterly poured out his heart to me and i think i had one of the nicest, deepest conversations i have had in a long time. but still, nothing else and I feel pretty crap now.

why nothing? why nothing after the chat? why the deep chat with sombody i had only met for the first time a few hours earlier? Im so confused. what did I do? am i stuck in the friends zone now?

WHY ARE MEN SO COMPLICATED!!

Stheno

moved from tll

Miss Fluff

Eh because maybe he wants to get to know you a bit first?

cactuspaw

tbh, I've pretty much lost all faith in me doing that.

MitchKoobski

At the risk of stating the obvious, ask him out does he want to go for a drink sometime?

Herrick

There's nothing complicated from what I can see, not all guys immediately jump down a girls throat or drag her into bed.

As Miss Fluff said, he probably just wanted to to talk to you and get to know you a bit first before trying it on.

It's also possible after chatting for a while he decided he wasn't that into you either.

Just because you get talking to a guy, even if his friends say he is interested doesn't automatically mean anything is going to come of it.

If you really like him, the only thing to do is text him and say it was nice chatting and you wondered if he'd like to meet up for a drink sometime.

ManOfMystery

cactuspaw wrote: »

ok, was out the other night, friend had a few other friends up and I said I'd go out coz I had no work the next day. anyway, twas the first time meeting some of the new people. half way through the night friend explained one of them was interested in me. i was very flattered, seriously thought the dude was out of my league. anyway, i decided it would be awkward coz he was stayin in ours and i figured he's expect more then just the shift and i decided to let the moment pass. when we got home, friends "disappeared" and left me with him, i decided, aw to hell with it and flirted me arse off, but nothing happened. instead of tryin it on the guy litterly poured out his heart to me and i think i had one of the nicest, deepest conversations i have had in a long time. but still, nothing else and I feel pretty crap now.

why nothing? why nothing after the chat? why the deep chat with sombody i had only met for the first time a few hours earlier? Im so confused. what did I do? am i stuck in the friends zone now?

WHY ARE MEN SO COMPLICATED!!

From his point of view : Meets girl, has a nice long chat.

From your point of view : You get told he likes you, you decide not to follow up on it initially, then you do follow up on it and flirt with the guy, have a long chat and now you feel crap because nothing came of it.

And you think HE'S complicated?

Maybe your friend wasn't being completely accurate. Maybe he liked you but didn't feel a spark. Maybe he liked you and was taking it slow. Don't read into it too much. I think you're building this up in your head into more than it actually was. Did he take your number or did you offer it?

Yeah, sorry OP, but in this case I think you are far more complicated than this guy was. If you liked him and wanted something to happen with him, you should have actually made the first move. But perhaps you were best not to - if this guy had that deep a conversation with you, it means that whatever he talked about was heavy on his mind. So, chances are that he would have turned you down at that moment.

But yeah, as ManOfMystery said - why not just go, "hey, drinks?"

going un-reg

Hehe, I laughed at "Why are men so complicated"...Kettle calls the pot black much??

There's nothing complicated about this at all. You misinterpreted the situation completely and because it didn't go the way you thought it was going to go, you assumed that he's messing about?

Try thinking that perhaps you were talking to a genuine guy. They're pretty rare these days.

hattoncracker

If hes had problems in the past, or just out of an LTR, maybe he's telling you so you know the whole situation before anything happens.

Ask him out, its no big deal like.

Wompa1

Yeah. Got to agree. I also don't get why some people take it so personally when they assume they can just get somebody into bed and it doesn't happen. It's not necessarily a bad thing. Maybe he showed you some respect!? Also if he's friends with your friend then jumping into bed with you could create a messy situation

Big Bag of Chips

Why do girls always think fellas should make the first move and then get annoyed if they don't?!

Why didn't you make a move? Nervous? Unsure? Afraid of being shot down?
Is it not plausible that he felt the same?

If you like him ask him out. If he declines, then you are slightly embarrassed for a few minutes, but at least you know. If he says yes... then at least you know!