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Stuck in a rut

  • 02-04-2012 4:06pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm in my early 20's, and have more or less spent my teenage years behind closed doors. I was abused a lot then, and because of the situation I found myself in, I couldn't find help.
    My parents were part of the problem, I was exorcised among other things, and I couldn't tell anyone.

    I lost all my friends to the years and came out of the ordeal being very out of it.

    So far I feel stuck, I've tried a good few years out into the world again but can't seem to relate to people. I find a lot of my time wasted because my past always seems to creep back and I try and distract myself from the memories by drinking it away or playing video games.

    A part of me feels like I need to get over the issue, I want to progress in my life, but can't seem to find a way out. I'm attending college and I get along with people, but seem to end up doing something unknown to me that pushes people away.

    I'm denied therapy because I lack funds and neccisary support to attend.

    I just don't know what to do.


Comments

  • #2
    Lola B
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 ✭Lola B


    Hi OP,

    I think you need to give some more information so people can get a better picture of what your going through...

    Are you still living with your parents? What do you mean by exorcised?
    Do you have anyone you are close to who you can talk to about this?

    I went to a councillor because I also have issues making friendships. She said it was down to my confidence from they way my parents treated me, she told me that people are like plants, they grow up healthy and strong in a healthy environment, but if the are neglected they wither.

    I have found that if you are nervous around people don't feel like you have to come up with something witty or interesting to say. One good technique is to ask them lots of questions so you don't have to talk much! If people think you are quiet so what? You are just taking your time allowing yourself to feel more comfortable.

    Keep putting yourself out there no matter how uncomfortable you feel. Eventually you will find it easier, and once you feel comfortable and confident with someone it will be much easier to become friends with them.

    I am trying to follow this advice myself, seem to be easier to give others advice than follow it yourself! best of luck.


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