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Am i asking too much?

  • 31-03-2012 2:30pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Am just wondering has anybody ever had issues with being in a relationship with someone with kids my partners ex never has the kids (3) so the end up staying with us a lot including every weekend, love them to bits but would love a night off now and again, dont want to leave them with a babysitter or anything. My partner agrees with me but never made a formal aggreement with his ex and she now refuses to make one. Just looking for any advice on how to approach this? Thanks


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  • #2
    jellygems
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    --? wrote: »
    Am just wondering has anybody ever had issues with being in a relationship with someone with kids my partners ex never has the kids (3) so the end up staying with us a lot including every weekend, love them to bits but would love a night off now and again, dont want to leave them with a babysitter or anything. My partner agrees with me but never made a formal aggreement with his ex and she now refuses to make one. Just looking for any advice on how to approach this? Thanks

    to be honest with u its between him and her not u. u dont have to sit in with them they arent ur responsibility, so if ur partners ex never has the kids who has them mid week???

    theyre half his kids by right he should have them half the time not just two days a week, u knew what u were getting into when u got with him. suck it up or move on and stay out of it its not to do with u.


  • #3
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    Why would you not leave them with a babysitter?:confused:


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    It's actually your OH who needs to address this with the kids mother as you can't get involved.

    Also, not being terse, but surely you knew what was involved when you got together with a father of three?


  • #5
    ash23
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    If the other parent isn't willing to take them then a babysitter is the only and easiest way forward.
    It sounds like you are trying to score points to be honest.
    Surely if you both want a night off then it shouldn't matter if the kids are with a sitter or their mother, once they are looked after and you can both go out.
    Seems like you resent the fact that the mother has gotten off without the responsibility of the kids and it's affecting your life so you resent that fact. Which is understandable but believe me, you're fighting a losing battle.

    Some people will never step up to the plate for their kids. And there's nothing you can do about it other than seethe with resentment.
    He has kids, his ex isn't interested in taking them. Accept it. He has. He is parenting alone. Babysitters are the way forward.


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