dating advice ??

jellygems

i was hoping to get some dating advice

had plans to go for a drink with someone but no time or location given said theyd txt on the day but didnt...


background, hes been asking me out for weeks... went to huge effort to get my number even tho the first time i gave him the wrong one

i have to be honest i wasnt interested, but hes funny so i thought why not
havent heard anything so i want u good folk here to say dont agree to a second one cos i know at some stage he will ask

hes just not that into me or something its all very confusing

LickLickLick

If you wanted to know where/what time you could have easily have contacted him.
I'm sure he is interested because he asked you out.
He may also have been waiting to see if you made contact on the day.
He may have asked you out, but it's nice to show you are equally as interested.

Maybe give him a call/text and see what the story is, only way to really find out.

jellygems

LickLickLick wrote: »

If you wanted to know where/what time you could have easily have contacted him.
I'm sure he is interested because he asked you out.
He may also have been waiting to see if you made contact on the day.
He may have asked you out, but it's nice to show you are equally as interested.

Maybe give him a call/text and see what the story is, only way to really find out.

he told me he'd text me, i will totally put my hand up and say i dont really know how dating works but i thought if he said he'd contact me he would ???


am i wrong?

LickLickLick

jellygems wrote: »

he told me he'd text me, i will totally put my hand up and say i dont really know how dating works but i thought if he said he'd contact me he would ???


am i wrong?

No, you're not wrong at all.

I just wouldn't sit around waiting to see if he's going to text, if you want to know something, just ask simple as.

No waiting around, no game playing, just straight forward. (I'm not accusing you of game playing) I just mean if you wanted to know you have easily have asked him

Herrick

OP why didn't you just tell him you weren't interested in the first place instead of giving him the wrong number?

Surely this shouldn't be that much of a big deal if your that uninterested in the first place? Or is it the fact he may not want you anymore that annoys you?

I'd say the penny dropped and he has copped your not bothered so doesn't wanna waste his time.

jellygems

thanks lick sound advice

herrick i said i wasnt interested, now im not so sure hes funny very funny so i thought id give it a go and see how we got on


re why didnt i tell him at first cos i think thats a tad rude, no i wont be annoyed if he doesnt want me anymore thats life but if he doesnt dont ask me out its confusing otherwise

ButterflyABC

jellygems wrote: »

i was hoping to get some dating advice

had plans to go for a drink with someone but no time or location given said theyd txt on the day but didnt...


background, hes been asking me out for weeks... went to huge effort to get my number even tho the first time i gave him the wrong one

i have to be honest i wasnt interested, but hes funny so i thought why not
havent heard anything so i want u good folk here to say dont agree to a second one cos i know at some stage he will ask

hes just not that into me or something its all very confusing

He's obviously interested if he asked you out but may have got bored if you werent showing signs of interest too. Text him. He might just not bother texting you again because you don't seem interested and gave him the wron number in the first place!

jellygems

ButterflyABC wrote: »

He's obviously interested if he asked you out but may have got bored if you werent showing signs of interest too. Text him. He might just not bother texting you again because you don't seem interested and gave him the wron number in the first place!

thanks i get that makes sense doesnt it

im a knob when it comes to dating :mad:

Herrick

If you have his number and are interested now sure why not shoot him a text?

jellygems

Herrick wrote: »

If you have his number and are interested now sure why not shoot him a text?

i always thought or was told it makes the girl look needy desparate clingy more interested than him ? ya know

ButterflyABC

jellygems wrote: »

Herrick wrote: »

If you have his number and are interested now sure why not shoot him a text?

i always thought or was told it makes the girl look needy desparate clingy more interested than him ? ya know

I don't know but I think if you like him and wanna go for a drink text him, you might not like him but you also might so give it a shot and text. He did ask you out and put in the effort.

It does make you look clingy if you keep texting and don't get a reply but if its just a text I don't see the harm and it was him that showed all the interst in the first place.

Herrick

Well you haven't seemed interested at all so far as far as he's concerned

Just ask him hows his week going, etc. Nothing clingy, desperate in that.

I'm a guy and love when a girl shows interest. Your only clingy if your at him 24/7

jellygems

Herrick wrote: »

Well you haven't seemed interested at all so far as far as he's concerned

Just ask him hows his week going, etc. Nothing clingy, desperate in that.

I'm a guy and love when a girl shows interest. Your only clingy if your at him 24/7

ok thanks herrick, ill send im a text and see how it goes down :eek:

newuser30

simple enough, you dont sound interested enough to contact him, so as you said if he most likely asks you again say yea but when and where, im a busy girl u know!!! if he actually wants to make a date he'll make the effort to set time and place.

G-Money

From your original post it came across like you were completely uninterested and perhaps he finally realised that and thought "stuff this". Personally I don't mind doing a bit of chasing but if a girl is just acting all cool and uninterested, I'd lose interest in the blink of an eye.

It sounds to me like you weren't/aren't that bothered about this guy and perhaps he just thought he was wasting his time and decided to drop it. I wouldn't be surprised if he went as far as deleting your number. If I were in his shoes I probably would have by this stage.