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Why do I care what people think?

  • 26-03-2012 06:31PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey guys,

    I know this problem isn't as severe as others on this but it is important to me and I hope some people can get back to me on this.

    I think I care too much about what others think of me, my friends in particular. I'd love if I didn't care what people thought as it holds me back from doing things sometimes.

    For example, I have a chance to start seeing a girl that I really like, but we met online and I know I would get a bit of stick (humorous) from my friends and others about that, and that is putting me off. Now I'm not complaining about my friends, they are great to me. I think this is more of a reflection on me. It would bother me getting a bit ridiculed over it because as I said, I care too much what they think. I don't want people to laugh at me or think i'm a fool. (which has happened with situations like this with some of our other friends)

    I'm a bit of a shy guy and i can be pretty unconfident at times and I think that could maybe be a reason for me feeling like this?

    Why am I so concerned with my image to others and why I am letting this stand in the way of good things for myself?

    Hope some of you can get back to me.

    Thanks!


Comments

  • #2
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    In regards to the girl you met online, just don't tell them! If you and the girl end up going out just make up a cover story for where you met :) A lot of people I know won't admit to many they use it and always say they met on a night out, etc.


  • #3
    Logical Fallacy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,933 ✭✭✭Logical Fallacy


    To be honest, every circle of friends i ever had in my life we all made a bit of fun of each other, non serious mockery for humour. You'd give it and take it and everyone would have a laugh.

    You seem to feel you are a bit sensitive...but you also feel your friends are genuine friends. As such, try and remember the stick that is handed out is probably just a sign of affection.

    Finally, if you have a chance to be happy then you should take that chance, the mild ribbing your friends might give you will pale in comparison to how happy you could end up being with that girl. :)


  • #4
    going un-reg
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 98 ✭✭going un-reg


    Hmm, 6-7 years ago, telling somone you met online would have resulted in raised eyebrows, but these days peoples opinions about online originated relationships has loosened up considerably.

    It's 2012 dude, if your friends give you stick about meeting someone online, tell them where they can go and shove it.

    I'd rather have done it, than not have done it and looked back, regretting that I didn't make something with her.

    Just go for it ;)


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