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Not happy with life

  • 25-03-2012 11:45am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I am 24 year old male and there is certain aspects of my life ATM that I am not exactly happy with.

    *Havent settled
    Through the years I have always had friends to call on from the guys I grew up (still in contact with them but we dont share the same views on life any more), to my mates from school (lost complete contact with them) and then my friends from in college. I really enjoyed my 4 years at college and my mates there really got me. But ever since I finished college I havent made and real friends and that was 18 months ago.

    After I graduated I got a job with a multinational which required me to move 2 hours away from where I went to college (in NI). So I have lost a fair bit of contact with my friends from college but still in contact with them.

    When I moved here for the job I moved in with another guy from the south who had just moved as well and we both didnt know anyone in the City.First impressions of him he was a really sound guy but after a few months of living with him I realised how much of a díck he was and once the contract was up I moved out straight away. The house I am currently live in I share with 3 girls and there is very little craic in the house.

    I head home every weekend as there is nothing for me to do up here.

    I joined a football team in work but I always feel like an outsider in that group.

    The guys I have lunch with sure I get on with but the only thing we have in common is work.

    I have been here a year and I still havent settled. Given the chance I would move back where I went to college in a heart beat but I have to think about my career and I am only started to understand stuff in work now so I need another years experience before I can move.

    *Love life
    Or lack there of. Obviously is a direct result of not meeting any new friends. I signed up for POF but its not for me as me not trusting peoples photos online. I deleted my account once I seen my house mate on it. I have noticed that all my family and friends have been asking me when I will be bringing a girl home which is really annoying as I know myself I wont be any time soon.

    It just seems I am taking living an unhappy life at the cost of good career experience.

    Advice?


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  • #2
    Agent J
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,909 ✭✭✭Agent J


    Welcome to the post college slump.

    One thing they dont teach you is the massive drop off in your social life afterwards. It can be quite difficult to adjust to. The main thing is that while in college there was a central place so it didnt require that much effort. Now it requires much more effort on your part to keep relationships/interests up & this is further complicated by your working life.

    Have to say it looks like you are trying. Joining a club is one good way but this one isnt working out.. Have you thought about joining anything else? Any other interests or hobbies you'd like to take up? Is there anything in towns nearby which would interest you? Evening courses?

    How about exercise? Do you run/cycle/hillwalk, conga line etc? Consider this a good reason to expand your horizons a bit. Through races & clubs you'll meet & interact with peopel

    Love life. I'd say focus on yourself for the time being. Yeah it sucks to hear that but being happy is quite attractive. Personally i would think you would better serve yourself by working on your own happyness first.


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