how do you tell someone "I am not sure I love you anymore"

itisallaboutme

I have been having nagging doubts about my relationship. I am just so confused at the moment. I really think I want to break up with him, or at least take a break. I have never been any good at understanding my emotions, and I am afraid that all this anxiety and doubt centering on him and our relationship could be misdirected from other problems in my life.
The thing is when I am with him I do not feel this way, I also think I regress into very childlike behaviour. I get clingy and want all of his attention on me all the time and make childish demands. Which is not healthy. This has never been typical of me in a relationship. But when we are apart I don't miss him, but I do think of him constantly. A lot of the time I also tend to think we are not right for each other.
I used to think I was in love with him, and now I am not so sure. Again when I am with him, I tend to lean towards the "how did I ever think I didn't love him camp?", but surely this doubt in itself is not a good sign.
I also recognise the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.
He "says" he loves me but most of the time I do not feel like he does, despite him telling me. I think one of the reasons being, that while I realize everyone has different feelings emotions etc... in this case I cannot help it when I think I feel this way so this is how he must be feeling too. So while he might really love me, I cannot be certain that he does or feel like he does, because I am not certain that I do him anymore.
What if he is completely happy with our relationship, and thinks nothing is wrong, and these feelings are not correct and I am just misdirecting them?
I do not want to hurt him, so my question is should I talk to him about it and how much do you think is OK to divulge. how do you tell someone "I am not sure I love you, I want to take a break or possibly break up"?
what if he is happy...I also don't want to push him away from me by telling him the truth, I still want him to love me, despite my uncertainties...selfish i know

Stuck Cone

Happened to me, i ended up riding her sister, best you chat about it before you end up riding his brother

I am a friend

You need to know what you want and then either finish with him or stay with him - none of this break rubbish. Sounds Like you are hedging your bets ANC that's just mean.

Beruthiel

Stuck Cone wrote: »

Happened to me, i ended up riding her sister, best you chat about it before you end up riding his brother

Banned for a week.

blatantrereg

Dont say you're not sure if you love him. He can't tell you what to feel.

Discuss the dynamic of you being childish/clingy with him. How you dont see that as part of your personality usually. How you dont think it 's healthy.

He'll understand that reexamining things might indicate doubts on your part. But you're inviting him in on your thought process which means he can understand how they are developing. Engaging him on an intellectual level rather than an emotional one too.

LegacyUser

that kind of happened to me too. I went through a phase almost 2 years into my relationship where i wasnt sure i was 'in love' with my OH. i spoke to him about my feelings and he was so kind and we worked on 'connecting' more by spending time together- i think one problem was that we werent connecting in the bedroom- which is crucial to feeling intimate and loving with someone.

Sounds like you're not sure what to think so I'd suggest trying to be more romantic and intimate and see if it works and then you'll know you've tried!