Potentially awkward talk with parents?

LegacyUser

Ok so this is a bit strange and in all likelihood quite silly.

This summer, I'm going to visit some friends that I haven't seen in a couple of years. In particular, I used to go out with one of them before I moved away. I'll be staying in her house when I'm visiting. How do I bring this up with my parents? I'm not sure how they'll take it. They're pretty easy-going about most things but I think they wouldn't be too impressed at me staying with her. Any suggestions? Or am I blowing it all out of proportion?

Beruthiel

It would help to know what age you are?

What will they be not too impressed about?
Do you expect to have sex with her?

The Big Red Button

If you're old enough to have moved away, I'm guessing you're old enough to legally do what you want and stay where you want without your parents' permission. So, if you think they'd be unimpressed, what's the point in telling them? Just say you're staying with a friend and leave it at that!

Taltos

Also is there a specific reason that your parents may disapprove of this girl?
As already stated provided you are an adult then who you stay with is really nobody's business, unless of course there is some legal/medical reason for your parents to have this level of knowledge/control over your life.

Being honest here, without a bit more context it is very difficult to say anything other than that.

why are you asking your parents? if you're old enough to move out you're old enough that it's none of their business beyond knowing you're safe etc

Bride2012

I sounds to me like you are a teenager who moved away with his family and you are visiting your old town? An age would be useful here though.

bouncebouncey

So this summer, for your holidays, you are visiting some old friends. One of whom you used to go out with. You will be staying with this person.

What in the name of jaysus has this got to do with your parents? If you are legally an adult you don't need to break anything to anyone.

More detail would help but I'm guessing you are still young and have trouble not acquiescing to your parents wishes.

prinz

So you are adult and mature enough to go off and bunk with an ex for the summer but not to have a conversation with your own parents?

I always had a rule of thumb, never do anything I couldn't tell my parents about. It served me pretty well over the years but then again I can talk to them about anything.

(a)
If you are very young then they might be right to have concerns. Tell them in a serious conversation discuss with them. Assure them. See how it goes. They might explain their concerns and you could work on addressing them together.

(B)
However if you are old enough to have some cop on etc your parents should be prepared to cut the strings. I'd say act the way you want to be treated. Tell them, and go.

LegacyUser

It would help to know what age you are?

What will they be not too impressed about?
Do you expect to have sex with her?

I've just turned 20 and honestly, I don't know if they would be happy or not. I never really have "these" conversations with my parents. Regarding sex, I don't expect to but it might happen. We have slept together in the past.

I sounds to me like you are a teenager who moved away with his family and you are visiting your old town? An age would be useful here though.

More or less right.


I suppose it's just a case of me "manning up" and telling them that I'm going there to visit such and such and staying with her. I don't really care what they say at the end of the day as I'm going either way but I suppose my problem is bringing it up in the first place.

Thanks for the advice so far!

Beruthiel

You're 20.
All you have to do is just tell them where you are going and leave it at that.
A parent will start to treat you like an adult when you start acting like one.