people calling to the house

haron

getting married in six weeks time and between herself and the mother i've enough painting and gardening to keep me busy for six months "for the visitors". do many people actually call to the house round the time of a wedding or are they just stressing for nothing. i know people don't really care or notice if theres a mark on the paint or the grass is a bit long but i cant get herself to relax she's even been stocking up on tea bags and a fridge full of milk.

Borderfox

It depends really, some houses are flat out and some are quiet

I've never heard of that tbh?
I don't think anyone called to my house....I've no doubt one or two of my mam's friends called to her house to drop in a token gift but nothing worthy of redecorating!!!

aod113

I think it's just a nice excuse to do up the house!

tinkerbell

huh?! That's ridiculous! Tell your missus to calm down and stop stressing.

Gatica

I've never heard of people trying to get a garden in order for a wedding unless that's where they were planning on hosting the celebrations.
If depends on your family and friends of the family though. If you're likely to have every dick and harry call over to congratulate you, then I can understand that they'd want it to be at least tidy. However, that's usually in areas where it's typical for someone to call over. I know no one will be calling over to us before the wedding cos we'll be too busy with our own preparations to be entertaining guests.

Borderfox

Tbh nobody really notices the house, they should be too busy looking at the beautiful Bride

Cathmandooo

It could also be to do with photos being taken on the morning of the wedding? You'd want the place looking well! Once she's not too stressed over it then I'd let her at it, if everything for the wedding is organised then she might just want something to concentrate on.

saa

Talk to your partner if they want the place done up for themselves as well but you don't have to do anything for visitors, if you feel like its too much work on top of everything else tell her its too much stress you're not her slave.

BC

It's much more common outside of Dublin.
People often call around with presents for the couple in advance of the wedding.

sweetie

My ma built a sun-room extension shortly before I got married 'for the visitors' - Really, she used my wedding as an excuse to get my Dad moving on it! I still call it the wedding room! We had a small enough wedding too.

random10

It's such a country thing, my parents are getting the place painted up for the wedding, there will be lots of visitors and the photographer. The sameway when I was small we had to do the house up if the "yanks" were coming to visit!!

haron

sorry everyone in ireland don't live in dublin.. but imagine there is life outside dublin..

haron

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sorry everyone in ireland don't live in dublin.. but imagine there is life outside dublin..

Cedrus

It's for the photos, Beautiful Bride, fantastic hair & makeup, peeling window frame in top left of photo. Fail.

Miaireland

I live in Cork County and it would be very common where I live. A few friends got married recently and I know they was a never ending stream of people calling.

POKERKING

I think some people are missing the point of your question.

I got married last year and in the week lead up to the wedding we had callers everynight, mostly family friends and neighbours dropping in presents etc, actually was one of the best part of the wedding process for me. Everyone wishing you well and in great spirits. I didnt do any redecorating though most of them only stayed for a cup of tea or glass of wine etc not long enough to notice the back garden or whatever!

John Mason

LOL - i am using my wedding as an excuse to get loads of niggly things done. we spend all day on saturday wallpapering and painting the inside of a larder, he was told we cant have people looking at the state of it


No-one is going to be coming to my house bar the 20+ who are staying the night of the wedding and they will be too pie eyed to notice anything

Himself is just letting me get on with it, now he did tell me at the weekend that i was putting to much stess on myself to get things done before the wedding but in reality he didnt want to powerwash the paving in the garden

so if your gf and yourself are happy enough to get things done, sure whats the harm but if it is causing a loads of stress, knock it on the head. no one will notice anyway.

carolinespring

When I was a kid and my older cousins wedding where coming up it was a big thing but not anymore. It was froa a era when people dropping in the wedding was big. You could not tuck a toaster into your handbag to take to the wedding!!! Now as it is mainly cash gifts it has really stopped ut I do remember my Mum helping my Aunt make plates of sandwichs, apple tarts and buns for all the visitors. It would start about a month before the wedding and every night the house would be full of visitors.

I also have memories of all the wedding presents on show for the visitors and a who gave what!!

I do think it was mainly a rural thing.

Gatica

that sounds lovely... It's a shame some of those traditions are dying out.

Sunny Dayz

You might not think it but the week running up to the wedding is hectic.

I found that all week people were calling to my parents to drop off a gift rather than bring one to wedding reception. And I found my friends more so calling to our house that week to see how we were, need any help and to get in the excitement.

In terms of doing up the house, with photos and video being taken in the house, they want to make sure all looks ok. Also, it's a great excuse for the mammy to get the dad to actually get around to all the jobs he's been putting off for years!!