Dumped the mean boyfriend - Right or Wrong

mariefarrell2

Lady, 34 in a relationship for 3 years and have broken up in the last month because i was tired of putting up with his meanness. He was mean because he done things like not buying a christmas present, nothing for valentines day and he would try and avoid paying when eating out.
Was I wrong to dump him for this reason?
or Could I have work around this problem in our relationship?

Morag

Imagine what it would have been like to be living with him and him never paying his share of anything?

Honestly you made the right call.

Ickle Magoo

Moved from tLL. :cool:

curlzy

It depends on how you view stinginess really. For me it's as unattractive in men as racism, sexism, poor table manners, i.e. a real turn off. I wouldn't be able to be with someone that turned me off to that extent, so yeah in my eyes you did the right thing but how do you view it? Like was he brilliant in other ways? Like was he very generous with his time or very helpful to others? If not and he was just generally stingy then yeah you did the right thing.

jellygems

hell yeah u were right

im all for the woman paying her way but thats a bit much

The Lovely Muffin

You were right OP.

Meanness is someone is horrible.

If it was a case where he hadn't got much money and sometimes couldn't afford X, Y or Z so you offered to pay then that's a bit different because he's not expecting you to pay, but going out and deliberately trying to avoid paying, is mean and sneaky IMO.

Elmidena

You're 34 and were together three years. Could you take another twenty years of pennypinching, next to no presents or changes of scenery in that time? What if you had kids that were also stuck with the miser existence? You know this already though, well done for having the strength to leave and I hope you find true happiness

bouncebouncey

If it was meanness for it's own sake you did absolutely the right thing.

I presume you'd know about his (rough) financial situation and that his meanness wasn't borne out of being skint and having his finances diminished considerably by a job loss/cut back.

Beruthiel

You dodged a bullet Marie.
Be happy!

mariefarrell2

Thanks for all the reply's and the support. For those of you who were wondering, He has a very good job - he runs his own business so money is no obstacle.
He had a nice manner and you think butter wouldn't melt in his mouth but very deep.

Mickey Dazzler

Cheap is cheap is cheap.. good night Irene.

Miss Fluff

Lucky escape - stinginess is an illness. I also think it may be representative of what he thinks of you. The fact he wouldn't make an effort to treat you and make you feel special shows an inherent lack of respect imho.