Father of the bride suit?

The Davestator

Hi folks. I'm getting married in September and want I know what the accepted tradition is regarding father of the bride suit. My dad and 3 groomsmen will be wearing the same suits. My finances dad is dead so her brother and step dad are walking her up the aisle - do these two wear the same suits as the grooms party normally?

I'm aware that I can do whatever we want, but would like to know the accepted protocol.

Thanks.

steph1

It does seem to be the norm that the fathers wear the same suits as the groom and groomsmen/bestman. However if they did not like the style of the suit e.g. tails, I am sure if they were both in agreement on wearing the same suit but a different style nobody would pay any heed.
Although it is nice to see all the men dressed in the same suits especially in the photographs.

omr2011

Normally they would all wear the same suit but sometimes the dads wear a normal tie if the groom and bestmen are wearing cravats or the scrunchy ties, just to be a bit different

gowayouttadat

omr2011 wrote: »

Normally they would all wear the same suit but sometimes the dads wear a normal tie if the groom and bestmen are wearing cravats or the scrunchy ties, just to be a bit different

Went looking at suits last week, we were told that the groom wears one style e.g tails. The groomsmen and father of the bride wear the same suit but slightly different style. In our case the groom is wearing prince Edward jacket and cravet and everyone is wearing standard jacket and ties.

Zaph

gowayouttadat wrote: »

Went looking at suits last week, we were told that the groom wears one style e.g tails. The groomsmen and father of the bride wear the same suit but slightly different style. In our case the groom is wearing prince Edward jacket and cravet and everyone is wearing standard jacket and ties.

Not one of the 5 places I looked at suits in mentioned that and I've never seen it at any wedding I've ever been to tbh. The only difference between me and the best man, groomsman and fathers will be the tie and buttonhole.

paulbok

Usually the same suits for the groom, bestman groomsmen and both fathers/stand-ins (and page boy if you have one)
the 2 fathers can have different style jackets to the rest, eg. I'm going for tails, but the 2 dads are having a suit style jacket. tails are not recommended for larger gentleman as it accentuates the waistline.

I always thought the grooms tie matched the brides dress colour, and the bestmen matched the bridesmen, but apparently the "ettiquite" says they all should match, but I've been to many wedding with different colour ties.
Whatever looks best I say.

angeldelight

Do whatever you like, sure who makes these "rules" anyway?!?

My fiance, best man and my dad are all wearing the same suit, fiance will have an ivory cravat to match my dress and BM and my dad will have champagne cravats. My fiance's dad has a bad stoop to his back so may not want to wear tails. If he doesn't want to wear it he's going to wear the same suit but with a normal length jacket in place of tails, and a champagne tie instead of cravat. It may not be "conventional" but he'll be comfortable!

Toto Wolfcastle

I had never heard of the ties having to match the bridesmaids or the bride before I went to one of the suit shops. We just went for whatever we wanted. As far as I'm concerned there are no rules.

gowayouttadat

Zaph wrote: »

gowayouttadat wrote: »

Went looking at suits last week, we were told that the groom wears one style e.g tails. The groomsmen and father of the bride wear the same suit but slightly different style. In our case the groom is wearing prince Edward jacket and cravet and everyone is wearing standard jacket and ties.

Not one of the 5 places I looked at suits in mentioned that and I've never seen it at any wedding I've ever been to tbh. The only difference between me and the best man, groomsman and fathers will be the tie and buttonhole.

Just saying what we were told. I'm not one for sticking to "rules" anyway and our wedding isn't conventional so we went with what we wanted but that is what the guy in the shop told us.

Atomicjuicer

This may be an obvious question to some but is it expected that the suits be paid for by the wedding couple?

Cathmandooo

Atomicjuicer wrote: »

This may be an obvious question to some but is it expected that the suits be paid for by the wedding couple?

I would say yes. Maybe a no if they're wearing what suit they want and possibly just taking the opportunity to buy themselves a new suit that can be used for work. Otherwise yes.

Zaph

Atomicjuicer wrote: »

This may be an obvious question to some but is it expected that the suits be paid for by the wedding couple?

Definitely yes if you're hiring them, but you wouldn't be expected to buy everyone new suits unless you choose to do so.

Gatica

well I think if you're expecting your party to have a particular suit that they don't already own, then it's your responsibility to pay for it, whether you decide to go the hired or purchase route...