SIL leaving toddler behind

LegacyUser

Quick problem, I know this should be none of my business but I just want people's opinions.

My SIL (sister in law) has got a great job opportunity that would see her go overseas for 5 weeks. That will leave my brother and the family with a two year old. This two year old goes mad whenever she's not with her mummy and now we'll be left with a crying baby for 5 weeks.

It's not my child, I get that. I have my own to be looking after. And it's very much a double standard as if it was my brother leaving I know the kid would be fine. But right now I'm losing sleep thinking about how upset that kid is going to be.

Am I being unreasonable? Will it all be ok after a day or two and should I stop worrying?

Beruthiel

If this has been agreed between her and her husband, then yes, you should keep out of it.
The child will get used to it, and if anything, will do it good.

stargazer 68

sadfortoddler wrote: »

My SIL (sister in law) has got a great job opportunity that would see her go overseas for 5 weeks. That will leave my brother and the family with a two year old. This two year old goes mad whenever she's not with her mummy and now we'll be left with a crying baby for 5 weeks.

Op how do you know the little girl doesn't calm down after an hour? I very much doubt she is going to cry for 5 weeks.

Keela11

Don't see what the problem is? She'll prob get over it in about a day. Besides if she has separation issues with her mother this is probably a good opportunity for her to get over them.

LegacyUser

Ok, thanks for the replies. I feel better hearing that.

If this thread could be locked it'd be great. Don't need this to turn into an everyone-having-a-go-at-me thing. I got the advice I needed.

ongarboy

Beruthiel wrote: »

If this has been agreed between her and her husband, then yes, you should keep out of it.
The child will get used to it, and if anything, will do it good.

I agree. It might also enhance the bonding between the child and it's father. Infants are very adaptable to whatever the current situation is put on them. (eg if a mother runs to the child every time it cries, it will keep crying everytime it wants non essential attention , if the parent learns to hold back, the child is soon trained to know that screaming and crying all the time will not work. A parent of a two year old should in most occasions know when the child is just crying for attention as opposed to a genuine problem).

Your SIL leaving her child with the father is also a joint parental decision made by them that they are both comfortable with so it is not your place to interfere. Similarly, I expect you would not welcome interference from your SIL on a parental decision you made and which you believed to be sound and appropriate.

Yeah, definitely keep out of it. They're both adults and have made their decision.

LegacyUser

Totally none of your business. The childs parents have agreed and that's all that matters. From the thread title I thought she was leaving the kids alone somewhere but the child will be with her father and at 2 years old she's certainly old enough to have time away from mummy. Frankly if she does throw a fit everytime the mother leaves it will do her some good to spend time away from her but I doubt the child is going to cry for 5 weeks or even one week. It will be good for daddy to get to spend this time with his child.

Stavro Mueller

Without being rude here I think you should butt out and mind your own business. It's none of your concern.

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