Please help with a question that was answered, which shouldn't have been asked.

RedOG

My other half and I were chatting the other night and being nosy, I asked him that hypothetically speaking, if we were not together, who would he be interested in sleeping with (I know, I know, I shouldn't have asked the question if I didn't want to hear the answer!). It took him ages of coaxing but finally he came out with a girl whom I had met before. This wouldn't have been an issue (he said one or two other girls who he would have been interested in 'persuing' also that I had met before also and it didn't bother me), but the fact is that when I met the girl in question, I caught him a few times watching her. So much so that I pointedly asked him what he was looking at.. i.e "I'm on to you".

It didn't help matters that she was quite drunk that night and was dancing behind him at the table and being a bit flirtatious. When I mentioned it later to him, that I felt he was giving her a bit of the glad eye, he brushed it off and made me feel like I was being a bit paranoid and jealous (which I openly admit I can be). So when this came out I felt a bit angry, that he made me feel like I was being ridiculous at the time, when in fact there is some truth in the matter.

So I guess my question is, do I have any right to be angry? I asked the question so is it my own fault if I didn't like the answer? Why is it the thought of this girl that is upsetting me, when the others he mentioned don't? On the one hand, I don't want him to regret in opening up to me as he is quite a private person and I wouldn't want him to feel I tricked him into getting into trouble. On the other, I'm annoyed that he mentioned this girl out of anyone and upset that I was made feel foolish when in fact, he did have a bit of a thing for her. I'm just trying to sort out my head her so all insight welcome.

P.s I'm not worried at all about him cheating on me with this girl, I know he never would so that's not an issue at all. Neither does he speak with this gril often, see her or contact her in anyway.

robman60

No, you have no right to be angry.

You asked the bloody question and when he answers honestly you think he's at fault?

reganreggie

The problem is you like most women imo are a bit mental.
Do not give him grief for this or he will never answer a direct question again. You seem very secure in your faith in him so dont be looking for trouble by stirring up hypotyical crazyness.

Faolchu

PI is that-a-way>>>>

but you've no right to be pissed. you asked, you kept pushing to get an answer and you got one. suck it up

RedXIV

Could be the forbidden fruit thing making him say her. You said yourself you were watching him and let him know. He probably wouldn't even think of her as much except for he has in the back of his head now "Thats X, I'm not supposed to talk to her" as opposed to "Thats X"

This is your own doing!!!

I am pie

You're a fool for asking, he's a fool for answering !

You're well suited so.

phasers

Gurl you crazy

biko

RI.