UK wedding card etiquette

dark crystal

Going to my English cousin's wedding in May and was just wondering how much money I'm expected to put in the card.

I know in this country it's around the €100 mark, but over there, I don't think they expect anywhere near that much.

Anyone have any idea what an appropriate amount would be

El Guapo!

One potato

hondasam

Depends on how well you know them, are you bringing a guest?

dark crystal

hondasam wrote: »

Depends on how well you know them, are you bringing a guest?

Yep, myself and the boyfriend are going.

gurramok

€100 was Celtic Tiger cheap credit Bertie money, donate £50stg.

Chuck Stone

Give them one-hundred-thousand Zimbabwean dollars.

hondasam

dark crystal wrote: »

Yep, myself and the boyfriend are going.

I would say 60 sterling would be ok or buy them something.

KeithM89_old

No one wants money these days, get them something useful, like a panini-press or a cassette player.

Nodin

KeithM89 wrote: »

No one wants money these days, get them something useful, like a panini-press or a cassette player.

...or one of them things for holding bits of toast.

dark crystal

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Give them one-hundred-thousand Zimbabwean dollars.

What's that, about £2.78 Sterling.... sounds reasonable.

El Guapo!

Nodin wrote: »

...or one of them things for holding bits of toast.

A hand?

mikemac1

dark crystal wrote: »

I know in this country it's around the €100 mark,

Not anymore it's not

LETHAL LADY

Check out the down n out relatives, thats what I do when visiting her majesty.

Pandora2

Give what you can afford a gift to the value of/or £50 Stg would be adequate....and enjoy the wedding:)

Nodin

Dean09 wrote: »

A hand?

One of these would be a bit pricey
http://cdn.medgadget.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/g69h1f98.jpg



http://www.kendermar.ie/admin/bgprodimg/36-45Toast%20Rack(KTSTRB4121)_46.jpg

used to have them in hotels. Perfectly designed to get the toast cold quickly, I thought.

phasers

Ew, what kind of lunatic eats their toast cold?

krudler

mikemac1 wrote: »

Not anymore it's not

still is tbh, some weddings have mimimum gift amounts

later12

As someone else said, give whatever you can afford to give.

Personally I don't give money as a gift, but I appreciate it's the one wedding gift married couples don't mind getting from more than one person.

krudler wrote: »

still is tbh, some weddings have mimimum gift amounts

Seriously?

That sounds like the rudest wedding invitation ever.

Do they also address the invites as "Dear Bitches..."

Nodin

phasers wrote: »

Ew, what kind of lunatic eats their toast cold?

...people sitting in a hotel at 8.00 am looking at a toast holder.

LizT

later12 wrote: »

As someone else said, give whatever you can afford to give.

Personally I don't give money as a gift, but I appreciate it's the one wedding gift married couples don't mind getting from more than one person.

krudler wrote: »

still is tbh, some weddings have mimimum gift amounts

Seriously?

That sounds like the rudest wedding invitation ever.

Do they also address the invites as "Dear Bitches..."

Take a look in the weddings forum. Some people ask for 'gifts that can fit in an envelope' while others ask that no one wears anything from a certain shop in case they wear the same dress as the bridesmaids.

Disgusting behaviour IMO.

krudler

later12 wrote: »

As someone else said, give whatever you can afford to give.

Personally I don't give money as a gift, but I appreciate it's the one wedding gift married couples don't mind getting from more than one person.


Seriously?

That sounds like the rudest wedding invitation ever.

Do they also address the invites as "Dear Bitches..."

yup, its why some people invite hundreds to their wedding afters, they know that 100 quid a pop will half pay for the wedding.

Nodin

...weddings - are they the real life Irish "My Sweet Sixteen" for some people?

ejmaztec

Attach a paper-clip to the card and write "Spend it wisely", before putting it into an unsealed envelope.. They'll have to thank you, but they'll never be sure about what happened to the money.

Next time you see the happy couple, ask them what they bought and watch them squirm.

Big Nasty

In the UK they give fcuk all as presents. I was at a wedding last year, big deal, well off people, free food and drink all day and the next in a big marquee. We were with them when they were opening cards with £20 or £25 in them, £50 was the biggest they got and considered extremely generous! I nearly fell off my stool.

chirogirl

I'm from the UK and £50 is more than enough as a wedding gift.

df1985

I went to my first english wedding last october, a friend I worked with in spain. I was with them the next day anyway and they were opening their cards, some people gave NOTHING, others were giving 20 quid etc.

I put 150 dollars in an envelope as they were going to new york on their honeymoon. I looked like a bloody billionaire compared to the rest!

starch4ser

dark crystal wrote: »

Anyone have any idea what an appropriate amount would be

Just enough to cover your share of the food and entertainment

Seomra Mushie

One thing, OP. Whilst in Ireland, it is considered rude to expect a gift, in Britain it's definitely not. It's seen as the height of rudeness NOT to bring a gift, so be as generous as you can, I guess. I don't agree with that attitude myself but here be one of the subtle ways that the UK and Ireland are different!

Seomra Mushie

krudler wrote: »

still is tbh, some weddings have mimimum gift amounts

I'd suddenly have something else very important to do that weekend, if gift demands were made on an invitation, close family and close friends aside. :cool:

Seomra Mushie

starch4ser wrote: »

Just enough to cover your share of the food and entertainment

BS

ejmaztec

Seomra Mushie wrote: »

I don't do wedding gifts

Seomra Mushie wrote: »

No way do I do wedding gifts

Do you squeak when you walk?








:pac:

Rasmus

Don't you 'pay for your plate' ? So whatever it's costing them per person, you'd give twice that amount?

LordSutch

chirogirl wrote: »

I'm from the UK and £50 is more than enough as a wedding gift.

I don't get this whole 'UK' thing, what is the definition of a UK wedding anyway?

summerskin

Seomra Mushie wrote: »

One thing, OP. Whilst in Ireland, it is considered rude to expect a gift, in Britain it's definitely not. It's seen as the height of rudeness NOT to bring a gift, so be as generous as you can, I guess. I don't agree with that attitude myself but here be one of the subtle ways that the UK and Ireland are different!

Utter rubbish, it's the other way around!! Presents are pretty much optional in the UK. Over here the grabbing gits want €100, the jokers.

Rocky_Dennis

LordSutch wrote: »

I don't get this whole 'UK' thing, what is the definition of a UK wedding anyway?

A wedding in either England, Scotland, Wales or Northern Ireland

Nodin

LordSutch wrote: »

I don't get this whole 'UK' thing, what is the definition of a UK wedding anyway?

....you know the way we aren't part of it anymore? You probably have some day of mourning put aside to remember the event.

Seomra Mushie

ejmaztec wrote: »

Do you squeak when you walk?








:pac:

You're going to feel so bad now but yes, yes I do! :pac:

LordSutch

No, seriously, I've been to weddings all over England & Ireland, one in Scotland too, but I couldn't honestly say what the definition of a "a UK wedding" was, as opposed to an Irish wedding, whatever that is?

Seomra Mushie

summerskin wrote: »

Utter rubbish, it's the other way around!! Presents are pretty much optional in the UK. Over here the grabbing gits want €100, the jokers.

Not my experience, having worked in Britain with mostly British people.

Tigger

ejmaztec wrote: »

Attach a paper-clip to the card and write "Spend it wisely", before putting it into an unsealed envelope.. They'll have to thank you, but they'll never be sure about what happened to the money.

Next time you see the happy couple, ask them what they bought and watch them squirm.

tear the corner off a few fiftys and staple them to a card in an unsealed evnvelope the fiftys can still be used
job oxo

Mickey H

dark crystal wrote: »

Going to my English cousin's wedding in May and was just wondering how much money I'm expected to put in the card.

I know in this country it's around the €100 mark, but over there, I don't think they expect anywhere near that much.

Anyone have any idea what an appropriate amount would be

About three fiddy should cover it.

micropig

Mickey H wrote: »

About three fiddy should cover it.

Three Fiddy:eek::eek::eek::eek: About three fiddy hundred, her dress is expensive you know... now pay for the pleasure of looking at it...and the flowers..etc:p