Asking a girl to a wedding

LegacyUser

I have a question in relation to a wedding which is coming up in about two months. Currently I'm single and I've been invited to a wedding by a good friend, which takes place in about two months. However, I currently don't have a +1 to take along. I don't fancy going to the wedding single either because there will be a lot of couples there, including an ex and her boyfriend. I could ask a girl or two that I know locally but I'd prefer not to as there will be a lot of couples at the wedding that would be mutual friends and I'd prefer if they didn't make presumptions about my love life.

Anyway, to get to the point. There is this girl that works in a local gym that I go to. She's quite attractive and without sounding too arrogant, I have a feeling that she might like me. Every time I go to the gym I get a nice smile and a big hello. She's quite friendly any time I talk to her. I don't know her that well but she seems like a nice girl. So what I am asking is would it be completely strange if I asked her to go as my +1? Seeing as we don't really know each other, only to say hi and have a brief chit chat, would she think I'm a nutjob for asking her? Obviously I would ask her if she was single first and then put it to her. Any thoughts/advice would help.

Thank you

Beruthiel

Yes. It would be a strange request and I'd be very surprised if she said yes.
Would you not ask her out on a date first?

username123

Ask her on a date first, I cant imagine a complete stranger would agree to go to a wedding - there is cost involved, what if ye didnt get on etc?

solovely

It always amazes me a) how many guys think it's appropriate to bring along a randomer to a friend's wedding and b) how they think it's OK to ask someone on a first date to a wedding!!

OP, no, please don't do this.

It's 2 months away. Would you not think of asking the girl on a date for this weekend - and the weekend after that, etc. and in two months time she may (or may not) be someone significant and appropriate enough to bring to a wedding as your +1.

Otherwise, would you not go alone? I've been to more weddings alone than I have with a partner, and it's way more fun! You will know lots of people there so it won't be like you're left sitting on your own in the corner. I think to your ex and other people, it would look more pathetic bringing some randomer you just picked up, than going by yourself.

LegacyUser

You don't know someone and then ask them to an event that starts at about 2 and goes on til 3 in the morning. That's a lot of time to be stuck with someone who you might not get on with.

There is a lot of hanging around at weddings... sitting in the church before the ceremony, after the ceremony, back to the hotel for drinks, waiting for the meal.....

You don't know her, she doesn't know you or any of the people there.... so you're sitting at a table with 6 or 8 other people and a lot of small talk with people you may know and she doesn't - can't think of anything more awkward.

We had a bit of a loose rule for our friends weddings.... they'd always ask out of politeness if I was bringing someone along but unless I'd been seeing her for a couple of months, I would go alone. (It costs them for an extra person to be there). In fact, I would never mention a wedding to a girl I was seeing unless it was serious - in case they were expecting an invite.

I've been to numerous weddings on my own and have had great fun and usually pulled. Great place to meet someone.

I brought my present gf to a wedding last month... it was the first time in years that I had done that. It was a good way to introduce her to my friends who had never met her but it would have been very awkward if it had been a first date.

ElleEm

wedding_dilemma wrote: »

I have a question in relation to a wedding which is coming up in about two months. Currently I'm single and I've been invited to a wedding by a good friend, which takes place in about two months. However, I currently don't have a +1 to take along. I don't fancy going to the wedding single either because there will be a lot of couples there, including an ex and her boyfriend. I could ask a girl or two that I know locally but I'd prefer not to as there will be a lot of couples at the wedding that would be mutual friends and I'd prefer if they didn't make presumptions about my love life.

Anyway, to get to the point. There is this girl that works in a local gym that I go to. She's quite attractive and without sounding too arrogant, I have a feeling that she might like me. Every time I go to the gym I get a nice smile and a big hello. She's quite friendly any time I talk to her. I don't know her that well but she seems like a nice girl. So what I am asking is would it be completely strange if I asked her to go as my +1? Seeing as we don't really know each other, only to say hi and have a brief chit chat, would she think I'm a nutjob for asking her? Obviously I would ask her if she was single first and then put it to her. Any thoughts/advice would help.

Thank you

You should be more concerned with enjoying myself at the wedding and not having a date as your ex will be there.

I agree with the other posters, ask this girl on a date if you like her. You shouldn't need the excuse of a wedding in two months if you truly like her. Just don't be using her to show her off to your ex and her new boyfriend! That'll be immature of you and terribly uncomfortable for her.

SineadMarie

So basically you want your first date with this girl to be at a wedding. If a bloke that i didnt know really asked me to a wedding i'd decline. Maybe ask her out see how it goes from there. From the sounds of it your desperate to a female plus one as your ex is gonna be there??

Miss Fluff

wedding_dilemma wrote: »

II don't know her that well but she seems like a nice girl. So what I am asking is would it be completely strange if I asked her to go as my +1? Seeing as we don't really know each other, only to say hi and have a brief chit chat, would she think I'm a nutjob for asking her?

In answer to both questions, yes and yes.

Anyone working in a client-facing role is meant to smile and be friendly. I wouldn't go reading anything into it. You also don't know anything about her. She may be married. Asking her randomly to a stranger's wedding would be make things quite uncomfortable. Get talking to her more and once you've gotten to know her a little more ask her out ON A DATE, not to the wedding.

zxcvbnm1

Miss Fluff wrote: »

wedding_dilemma wrote: »

II don't know her that well but she seems like a nice girl. So what I am asking is would it be completely strange if I asked her to go as my +1? Seeing as we don't really know each other, only to say hi and have a brief chit chat, would she think I'm a nutjob for asking her?

In answer to both questions, yes and yes.

Anyone working in a client-facing role is meant to smile and be friendly. I wouldn't go reading anything into it. You also don't know anything about her. She may be married. Asking her randomly to a stranger's wedding would be make things quite uncomfortable. Get talking to her more and once you've gotten to know her a little more ask her out ON A DATE, not to the wedding.

OP - as other posters have said you'd be a walking freak show to ask her straight out to a wedding in 2 months time.

Quite clearly you're not that interested in the girl because if you were you'd be more interested in getting a date with her.
You're obviously desperate to have basically anyone to accompany you at the wedding for show purposes given your ex will have her boyfriend there.

I think you've gotta chill out about going to the wedding alone. It's not that bad !

I am a friend

Yeah if I knew a guy i liked, I would go on a date with him but would not to go to a wedding with him before I knew him well.