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LegacyUser

Ok this isn't the world worst dilemma to have but I would really appreciate some objective advice. Sorry if its a bit all over the place.

Im a 33 year old woman and I have been offered work in Canada for 2 years by the company that I work for. Im single and while I would miss my friends and family I think that it could be an exciting prospect.

The only thing is that Im thinking that by the time I come back to Ireland Id be 35+ and still single (the odds of meeting someone over there who would be happy to come back here would be slim I'd say, so I kinda think what'd be the point of seeing someone over there). I love Ireland and definitely want to settle here so staying in Canada wouldn't be an option.

But if I stayed here that'd be two years that I could spend dating and hopefully (I realise that there are no guarantees) meet someone that I would be serious with and want to start a family with and am I mad heading off to Canada when i could be building a life for myself here? I came out of a long term relationship a year ago and know that its not as easy as clicking my fingers and meeting someone, but I have been on a few dates that could have progressed only I felt I wasn't ready.

Ok, I appreciate that I am probably way overthinking this and sound like Im mental with my timeframes, but realistically I will only have another few years to have children.

So, to quote Clash, should I stay or should I go?

Princess Peach

I think what it really comes down to are what your priorities are. Seems there are two options, your career and travel prospects, and your desire for marriage and kids. Which is more important to you?

Of course there are middle grounds here, meeting someone there, or meeting someone when you get back, but you seem to have ruled them out for yourself!
Make sure you really think things through and don't rule out all possibilities for yourself.

beks101

dilemma11 wrote: »

(the odds of meeting someone over there who would be happy to come back here would be slim I'd say, so I kinda think what'd be the point of seeing someone over there).

Bear in mind the fact that there is a sizeable Irish contingency in Canada right now, I'm in Toronto and there's Irish accents everywhere, I'd say on average I meet a new Irish person every day just when I'm out and about.

Obviously it depends on what part of Canada you'd be moving to, but if it's Toronto, Vancouver or Montreal and it's an Irish boy you're after, there's plenty of ways to meet them!

I guess the crux of the issue is that you're not 23 anymore and leaving now could have repercussions for your bigger life plans, but think about this - what happens if you stick around and in two years' time, you still haven't met someone to spend your life and have a family with? Would you feel cheated?

stargazer 68

Sorry OP if it was me I would already be on the plane. I lived abroad for many years and its a completely different way of life and a fantastic experience. It seems the only reason you are staying is that 'you might meet someone'. You may not and then you would be kicking yourself for not taking this opportunity. I came back to Ireland 7 years ago and Im still single!!!

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the replies, I really appreciate them.

Things clicked into place for me today. I've never been one for doing things by a certain age and have always been a big believer of doing what feel right at the time and seeing where that takes me. I realised that being surrounded by pregnant friends had me freaked out that it was never going to happen for me, but that is very unlike me.

Im going to grab this opportunity with both hands and accept the offer.

Whatever will be, will be.

Thanks again.

niceoneted

After reading your initial post I was thinking OP go, grab this opportunity by the B**ls. Meeting a man/partner etc can happen anywhere. why over think it and assume that they would not come here. A hell of a lot of Canadians are of Irish decent and they are kinda like the Americans in that they love Ireland so if you met a decent guy he would probably move back with you.
There are more men to women ratio in Canada and remember that your happiness is at stake her be it with a man or not.
It will be such an adventure. Go and enjoy it and bring a few decent blokes back for the rest of us!!!