Gaydar Help!

LegacyUser

So I joined gaydar, been on it for a week..and only 3 guys messaged me back out of probably 60! Is that normal or am I just very unattractive?!

Pacifist Pigeon

randomdude wrote: »

So I joined gaydar, been on it for a week..and only 3 guys messaged me back out of probably 60! Is that normal or am I just very unattractive?!

So you messaged 60 guys in one week. What's your pitch like? Do you have photos up? Maybe you're being too pushy. Look at the bright side, 3 guys messaged you back - keep in contact with them, and just don't be too pushy with them. Get to know them and know what they're looking for - if they're just looking for hook-ups then obviously they're not going to be good to hang on to if you're looking for a long term relationship.

brokenice

randomdude wrote: »

So I joined gaydar, been on it for a week..and only 3 guys messaged me back out of probably 60! Is that normal or am I just very unattractive?!

3 messages too many imo...get off gaydar and out into the real world....that's my advice.

LegacyUser

Ya got pics up alright, and just message a pretty open, "whats up" to most people. I'd say i'm just getting worked up over nothing

Rick_

Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »

So you messaged 60 guys in one week. What's your pitch like? Do you have photos up? Maybe you're being too pushy. Look at the bright side, 3 guys messaged you back - keep in contact with them, and just don't be too pushy with them. Get to know them and know what they're looking for - if they're just looking for hook-ups then obviously they're not going to be good to hang on to if you're looking for a long term relationship.

Quoted for truth.

brokenice wrote: »

3 messages too many imo...get off gaydar and out into the real world....that's my advice.

Also quoted for essentially being the truth as well, but it's not as easy as that for some guys who need a confidence boost so the internet is a good start, but there are better sites than that, depending on what you're looking for. Also, a picture does help, people don't like faceless profiles and as long as the message is plesant and not pushy or demanding/desperate, guys should reply.

Also, count yourself lucky 3 guys sent you a message. I have been on there for years, my profile has over 20,000 views and I could probably count on my hands and feet the amount of messages I have got from nice guys. The rest of my hardly ever received messages are just from people looking a quick fumble which isn't my style so I ignore them.

JH_raheny

just put in your profile text that you have a MASSIVE cock and that you are a right slut, you'll have loads of messages in no time

Ciaran0

JH_raheny wrote: »

just put in your profile text that you have a MASSIVE cock and that you are a right slut, you'll have loads of messages in no time

Sadly true. People on Gaydar are so seedy.

Sindri

Ciaran0 wrote: »

Sadly true. People on Gaydar are so seedy.

:eek:

Is it a gardening forum?

Pacifist Pigeon

I just say on my profile that I like long walks on the beach, going to the cinema, restaurant, etc., and that I'm not looking for hook-ups, rather a long term relationship. I don't even have any pictures up and I remove all the tracks I make on people's profiles yet somehow people message me frequency, it's odd. I never even message people directly first, usually they message me first.

Now I don't use gaydar a lot, but I have gotten dates before from other websites using near enough the exact same mannerism - never pushy, just plain honesty and looking for like minded people. Profiles that look sex-obsessed are very boring - sex is so over-rated sometimes.

brokenice

JH_raheny wrote: »

just put in your profile text that you have a MASSIVE cock and that you are a right slut, you'll have loads of messages in no time

hahahahahahahaha!!!!! classic!

Pacifist Pigeon

Sindri wrote: »

:eek:

Is it a gardening forum?

I tried seeding on the grass once, I can now report that it doesn't solve the inability of same-sex couple to reproduce. However, this weird looking plant did grow in its place - I call it the "Proto-Human-Plant".

BettyM

randomdude wrote: »

Ya got pics up alright, and just message a pretty open, "whats up" to most people. I'd say i'm just getting worked up over nothing

If someone sent me a message consisting only of “whats up” I woudn’t bother to reply, as it suggests they couldn’t be arsed to put any thought into their communication, and were probably sending the same message to about 60 guys. Which is exactly what you did, in fact.

JH_raheny wrote: »

just put in your profile text that you have a MASSIVE cock and that you are a right slut, you'll have loads of messages in no time

Let’s not pretend many men are not superficial. Some men like big cocks. Other men like to be spanked on their bottoms. Others still like to wear nappies. We can’t help what gets us going, and if for some men its another man’s big cock, isn’t that wonderful they know what they like

Ciaran0 wrote: »

Sadly true. People on Gaydar are so seedy.

I think its more than just gaydar, and its probably most men the world over, whether on gaydar or not. Sex is a normal part of adult life, and if you think “people” who seek out sex are seedy, that seems to suggest you think sex is not a normal part of an adult life. Or that its only normal if its done within the confines of a monogamous relationship, or in some other way which is acceptable to you.

What is very interesting is that in countries where religion has been out of favour for some time, the guilt instilled by many religions, or the legacy of the guilt, to do with sex and sexual conduct is much less apparent.

azezil

BettyM wrote: »

If someone sent me a message consisting only of “whats up” I woudn’t bother to reply, as it suggests they couldn’t be arsed to put any thought into their communication, and were probably sending the same message to about 60 guys. Which is exactly what you did, in fact.

I'm inclined to agree, I might look at the guys profile but unless his profile had something of interest on it I wouldn't bother to reply either.

Ciaran0

I think its more than just gaydar, and its probably most men the world over, whether on gaydar or not. Sex is a normal part of adult life, and if you think “people” who seek out sex are seedy, that seems to suggest you think sex is not a normal part of an adult life. Or that its only normal if its done within the confines of a monogamous relationship, or in some other way which is acceptable to you.[/QUOTE]

I think sex is a perfectly normal and very lovely part of adult life, and it's not the fact that people are seeking out sex that makes Gaydar seedy. There's nothing wrong with looking for sex on the internet, for many it's the only option. What makes Gaydar and other sites like it seedy is that many people's profiles are very crude and, well, seedy. If you were looking for sex outside of the internet you wouldn't go around showing yourself naked to the public asking, "Anyone want to have sex with me?" Gaydar is pretty much the online equivalent of that.

BettyM

Ciaran0 wrote: »

If you were looking for sex outside of the internet you wouldn't go around showing yourself naked to the public asking, "Anyone want to have sex with me?" Gayd

ar is pretty much the online equivalent of that.

How you might know what I might do, or not do, you don't say.

In any case, what I may or may not do is not relevant, and just because you think it is seedy to show others pictrues of ones body, then I don't expect everyone else will agree with you.

azezil

Ciaran0 wrote: »

If you were looking for sex outside of the internet you wouldn't go around showing yourself naked to the public asking, "Anyone want to have sex with me?" Gaydar is pretty much the online equivalent of that.

Actually, a guy pretty much did that to me one night as I was walking home. In the middle of the road (somewhere around Ballsbridge I think, not sure I got kinda lost) he whipped out his cock started stroking it and asked me if I fancied a blow job! I just replied 'eh... no, thanks anyway' and walked on. I was a bit freaked out at the time cause he followed me for ages so I tried to keep to well lite areas till he eventually gave up.

So yes, you can't say that doesn't happen in public cause I'm living proof that it does. *shudder* he was a ginger too

AodhDub

azezil wrote: »

Actually, a guy pretty much did that to me one night as I was walking home. In the middle of the road (somewhere around Ballsbridge I think, not sure I got kinda lost) he whipped out his cock started stroking it and asked me if I fancied a blow job! I just replied 'eh... no, thanks anyway' and walked on. I was a bit freaked out at the time cause he followed me for ages so I tried to keep to well lite areas till he eventually gave up.

So yes, you can't say that doesn't happen in public cause I'm living proof that it does. *shudder* he was a ginger too

He must have taken Ballsbridge a bit too literally...