her mind games

LegacyUser

This girl I know, we have been meeting for a few months but not sure what she is at or how to play her back at her games. I have played the cool game with her after she never texted me first and was distant. Then this week she texts me acting all interested again with X's etc and we texts for two days non-stop, then she tells me she is running out of credit and sends me one webtext the next day.

I haven't got a reply since from her but she is constantly poking me on Facebook today back and forward, but has not replied to my text. sent her a message on Facebook joking about cheers for the text back etc, but she still hasn't replied even tho she on it from interactions with other people.

How do I sort this girl out is it just the attention she wants?
Will just ignore her for another while again?

I am a friend

You are both acting the maggot by playing games so why bother?

Sounds like she copped that you were playing cool and is recriprocating...

ElleEm

OP, this situation sounds ridiculous.
If you can't trust how she feels about you, why would you bother?!
She's a silly girl to be playing these games but you are no better as you are playing back.

Cut your losses, and give up.

The next time you enter into a relationship with a girl, conduct yourself with more honesty and maturity. It'll save a lot of messing.

BarackPyjama

Don't ever contact her again. She probably has a personality disorder. Don't allow her to drag you down to her level with her deranged, damaged nonsense.

WhyGoBald

What do you mean by meeting? Do you mean dating, or are you friends?

Also, what do you mean by "sort her out"?

IrishEyes19

BarackPyjama wrote: »

Don't ever contact her again. She probably has a personality disorder. Don't allow her to drag you down to her level with her deranged, damaged nonsense.

such a riddiculous reply. It doesnt even deserve comment.

OP, enough of your games and the same goes to her. Stop focusing on time limits ect. You should text when you want and her the same. its free world. As sunflower said, pick up the phone and have a real conversation. texting is the worst way of communication.

BarackPyjama

IrishEyes19 wrote: »

such a riddiculous reply. It doesnt even deserve comment.

And yet you did anyway.

OP - Life's too short. Move on.

LegacyUser

Your right guys I shouldn't be playing games back somtimes it just hard to be cool when your head is been messed with!, i got a reply back last night on fb chat and she said she 'forgot' to text back plus she has no credit. (along with a wink).

I will see her tomorrow in class and she often tries to get my attention, or sit near me.
How do you move on from someone your in contact 5 days a week without getting frustrated. I find it much easier if i didn't see her regularly but at the moment its unavoidable with mutual friends etc.

best off be cool and say nothing and just be civil no games back?

LegacyUser

WhyGoBald wrote: »

What do you mean by meeting? Do you mean dating, or are you friends?

Also, what do you mean by "sort her out"?

We have been casually meeting for a few months, and we have gone on 3 or fours dates. But as rag week came along she backed off and was distant. But this week she texted me first and sounded interested again. Obviously I know its casual situation she not looking for a relationship or either I am. Just the hot and cold being with me is a little frustrating when I am most of the time nice to her.

Micky 32

I have just been going through something similiar with a woman who's a very immature 44:rolleyes:. Hot (really showed interest) and then cold bull****. This happened over the course 6 months. When the cold games started i told her to stop texting me and leave me alone. Happened about 4-5 times over the 6 months. We had lots of dates but she cancelled at least 5 of them for various reasons. So without fail within 3 weeks( like clockwork) after me telling her leave me alone a text from her would arrive.

I would get crap like " I missed talking to you" " I had a dream about you" " I feel i could tell you my darkest secrets", all these opening texts to get my attention again and like an idiot fell for it.. This time however things started to fall in place, we seem to get closer. My phone would constantly beep with sweet texts, we had lovely dates and she stayed "hot" towards me longer than ever, then without warning she went quiet. Asked her what's up now? She says " The physical attraction on my part isn't as strong as i'd like" WTF LOL.. Does it take 6 months to know if you're attracted to someone or not??

Chances are your girl maybe lacking in physical attraction for you too, like my girl she was just enjoying my sweet texts and me treating her like a lady for an ego boost until someone better comes along...

In my experience anyway, if a woman genuinley likes you , you will never have to question it..

LegacyUser

Update: ... stopped playing games this week, and talked to her normally in class and had the usual laugh together.

she sat across from me in the computer room after college with one of our other mates and asked me would i like to join them for food that night so did. I dropped the other friend off first then her and she kissed me in the car. I'm a little confused after it did it mean something for her or not.

Do you think I should wait for her to get back to me to hang or again or was this just a friendly gesture and leave it be for now??

advice would be greatly appreciated

Flange/Flanders

Ah come on lad never hang around for anyone that isn't reciprocating. Have pride in yourself! Seriously op, you sound like you'd chase her to the end of the earth. My advise is to not make her the centre of your attention, you're in college, there's hundreds of eligible women there more than likely, if this woman doesn't want you enough to not do everything in her power to prevent losing you, then its her loss and there's plenty of fish in the sea. Truly realise and feel this inside you and the world's your oyster.

anon cable

Flange/Flanders wrote: »

Ah come on lad never hang around for anyone that isn't reciprocating. Have pride in yourself! Seriously op, you sound like you'd chase her to the end of the earth. My advise is to not make her the centre of your attention, you're in college, there's hundreds of eligible women there more than likely, if this woman doesn't want you enough to not do everything in her power to prevent losing you, then its her loss and there's plenty of fish in the sea. Truly realise and feel this inside you and the world's your oyster.

+1 get shot of the dizzy tart

LegacyUser

anon cable wrote: »

+1 get shot of the dizzy tart

Speaking of women in this way will only land you with women who love drama and attention seeking, anon cable.

OP if you're going to get shot of her, do it with respect and dignity without having to resort to degrading language.

zxcvbnm1

Flange/Flanders wrote: »

Ah come on lad never hang around for anyone that isn't reciprocating. Have pride in yourself! Seriously op, you sound like you'd chase her to the end of the earth. My advise is to not make her the centre of your attention, you're in college, there's hundreds of eligible women there more than likely, if this woman doesn't want you enough to not do everything in her power to prevent losing you, then its her loss and there's plenty of fish in the sea. Truly realise and feel this inside you and the world's your oyster.

What a bizarre response !

OP - am I correct in thinking she asked you out for food with her friends yes?
Then she snigger you at the end of the night yes? ( by the sounds of things I'm assuming she instigated that)

Do what's the the problem? Why would someone suggest to drop her after that?

OP - now its your turn. Just contact her and ask her out on a date?
If she agreed then all well and good and if she declined then uku have your answer.

But from where I'm standing she definitely seems keen.

Flange/Flanders

did you read the ops original post. She's obviously playing games. And then later he asked if he should wait for her?