To text or not to text

Danii86

So.... I was kinda seeing this guy 4 a few weeks up until the start of feb and its was gud, i really liked him. Then i got kocked to the kerb because app hos ex wanted to get back woth him....i didnt even know there was an ex lurking, that topic never came up. He said he was mad about me blah blah blah i was just like ya whatever. Then a few days later got a drunken text and phone call asking me to call over, i was in bed so not a hope so just told him 2 contact me in the morn when he was sober, he did only to applogise and say that nothing had changed
So on sat night i may have sent a drunken text asking if he was still unavalible, he said he would be 4 me but that he was workin in the uk 4 the next 2 weeks but is mad about me (said in capitals) and he would call me when he gets back and missd me.
My question is should i text him just to see if he ment what he said or was it just a drunken thing? I dont want to spend the next week and half getin my hopes up

Missy Moo Moo

Danii86 wrote: »

So.... I was kinda seeing this guy 4 a few weeks up until the start of feb and its was gud, i really liked him. Then i got kocked to the kerb because app hos ex wanted to get back woth him....i didnt even know there was an ex lurking, that topic never came up. He said he was mad about me blah blah blah i was just like ya whatever. Then a few days later got a drunken text and phone call asking me to call over, i was in bed so not a hope so just told him 2 contact me in the morn when he was sober, he did only to applogise and say that nothing had changed
So on sat night i may have sent a drunken text asking if he was still unavalible, he said he would be 4 me but that he was workin in the uk 4 the next 2 weeks but is mad about me (said in capitals) and he would call me when he gets back and missd me.
My question is should i text him just to see if he ment what he said or was it just a drunken thing? I dont want to spend the next week and half getin my hopes up

So let me get this straight- he dumps you cos his ex reappears, then gives you a booty call only a matter of days later?

After all that, you then ask him is he available? You do know you've basically given him the impression that he can have you whenever he wants and discard you whenever he wants.

Sorry to be harsh, but no, you should NOT text him. He is not mad about you as his actions have indicated the opposite. Delete his number and forget about him.

Idle Passerby

He's not interested at all. If he was actually mad about you he would have done more to show it than drunk texting looking for a shag.

Danii86

Actually we never had sex....slept over in his house alrite but he said that good things come to those to wait, obv this was before the ex reappeared.

Miss Fluff

Danii86 wrote: »

Actually we never had sex....slept over in his house alrite but he said that good things come to those to wait, obv this was before the ex reappeared.

He sounds like a tosser.Delete his number!

Missy Moo Moo

Danii86 wrote: »

Actually we never had sex....slept over in his house alrite but he said that good things come to those to wait, obv this was before the ex reappeared.

Again, not to be harsh OP, but why do you think he wanted you to come over late at night when he was drunk? To discuss politics? You deserve so much better than this.

And on another note, this whole thing of contacting you when he gets back from London- why can't he contact you while he's over there? I know he might be busy but if he was really into you, he'd find five mins to send a text/ email/ facebook message/ whatever. That speaks volumes for me.

Delete, delete, delete! Let his ex have him.

coco_lola

OP, he is keeping you on a string until someone else comes along (or back, in the case of his ex) - sounds harsh, but it's the truth. It's not to say you aren't a great person, because you are! But unfortunately this guy doesn't see that, and he is keeping you sweet in case this thing with his ex doesn't work out, or if he isn't seeing her anymore, he is keeping you around until she comes back. Either way, I'd be well shot. You'll only get hurt again, trust me! Find someone who wants to talk to you and see you at normal hours of the day, and keeps in touch when they are in a neighbouring country

stargazer 68

I would bet there is no ex at all - used that excuse myself once or twice to dump someone!! Lose his number

IrishEyes19

Don't text this guy, people say all sorts of things when drinking and its usually along the lines of, we'll be together, I only want you ect.....and the next morning, its interesting that they never seem to say these things again. If he really meant it, he would say it sober, OP, Not mess you around with these games. Let him off to his own devices. He isnt worth it

Midnight Sundance

To be honest I doubt if there is even an"ex" in the equation at all. I've used the " me and my ex are getting back together " line before to get rid of lads I didn't want to see anymore or that had gotten serious when I wasn't looking for serious ( I havent done it in a long time... Please don't give out to me )

It sounds like you are being used , you are worth more than a booty call, don't let him treat you like that!!!!

niceem1

Im in a very similar situation at the moment danii86 so I know what your feeling. Easier said than done, but don't text him. You wont feel any better if you do. If he's just after splitting up with his ex, don't get involved in that & don't put yourself through being the rebound fling. If he wants you... He'll come back, but don't go chasing him! As I said its easier said than done, but good luck!