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To end or not to end...

  • 27-02-2012 8:55pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I am a first year college student, currently with my boyfriend of 6 months. We have been friends for about 2 years also. At the moment I'm having a tough time deciding whether or not to break up with him and any advice would be appreciated.
    I do love him and I feel like I can tell him everything, it's just lately something is not the same. We have been getting on each other nerves a lot the past few weeks and have had a few arguments recently. I live at college during the week so I only get to see him at weekends, and recently this seems much more of an effort or a chore than before. I've started to like other guys in college and I sometimes wish I could have the freedom of being single again, especially when I go out. But we have been through a lot together and I don't want to give up on a relationship that could last.

    Basically, I don't know if this is just a rough patch or if it could be the end of the relationship, what to do?? :/


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  • #2
    ihsb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 678 ✭✭✭ihsb


    If he is your best friend then don't be hasty to end it.

    I would say have fun while you are in college. Go out with your college mates and have the craic. Maybe stay in college for a weekend and go out with your new friends rather then hurrying home to see him. A friend once told me that a woman falls in love in the presence of a man and that a man falls in love in the absence of the woman.

    Maybe not seeing you for a while will remind him that he loves you and you might be able to clear your head for long enough to see what the relationship is. You will know your answer when you see him again.

    You are lucky enough to be in a relationship with your friend so don't throw it away just yet. See how it goes.


  • #3
    wivy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 204 ✭✭wivy


    do you really love this guy or has he fallen into the friend zone?
    if you see him as more of a 'friend' than someone your head over heels in love with I would say set yourselves free.. You never know he may be feeling the same!
    Enjoy college life! Live it up! But as a previous poster said be careful with how you handle the situation as he is a friend. Best of luck!


  • #4
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    KatyKat wrote: »
    I am a first year college student, currently with my boyfriend of 6 months. We have been friends for about 2 years also. At the moment I'm having a tough time deciding whether or not to break up with him and any advice would be appreciated.
    I do love him and I feel like I can tell him everything, it's just lately something is not the same. We have been getting on each other nerves a lot the past few weeks and have had a few arguments recently. I live at college during the week so I only get to see him at weekends, and recently this seems much more of an effort or a chore than before. I've started to like other guys in college and I sometimes wish I could have the freedom of being single again, especially when I go out. But we have been through a lot together and I don't want to give up on a relationship that could last.

    Basically, I don't know if this is just a rough patch or if it could be the end of the relationship, what to do?? :/

    Relationships never stay the same, as they develop things change. In the beginning it is all magic and then it settles down. You could always engineer a break just for a while based on the fact that you are having arguments, just to cool the air as it were, but remember "far away hills are green" and it could just be a case of human nature - we are never fully satisfied in this life.


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