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Jealous of his success?

  • 25-02-2012 12:47am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    My boyfriends career has taken and he recently got promoted. While I am delighted for him I can't help but feel more useless at the same time. He is away a lot with his job, my career is at an absolute standstill and looks like I wont be going anywhere for a while. I have basically not been able to find work for months since I was made redundant. I am trying. I volunteer to have something to do and I am looking at courses to do next year.
    I am still broke and feel like I can't keep up. Money has never been an issue before and I don't want him to feel he has to be the breadwinner or anything like that.
    I don't know if it is because I am fed up with myself but I hate to think I am jealous that he is going places and I feel left behind. Has anyone else felt like this and do I need to kick myself?
    Of course I am happy for him but I think I just feel lonely and down as I have little going for me and negative thoughts on me and us are beginning to appear more often in me. I really don't want to feel or think like this as i know it is selfish and petty.


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  • #2
    Chinafoot
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    I wouldn't call it jealousy, rather a fear of being left behind or being a burden on your partner.

    I think you should tell your boyfriend how you are feeling. Don't let this fester as it will become a much bigger issue in your head if you keep this bottled up.

    Try not to be too hard on yourself. You're actively trying to find work, you volunteer to keep busy and you're looking into education. You're doing everything that you can and its just unfortunate that you haven't been able to get work at the moment. Hopefully that will change for you soon, but until it does you need to tell your partner about how you feel.


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