Alternative - Outside Norm Wedding Help Needed

Gerryman

Hi,

I am getting married very soon. On a beach in ireland...

I know I cannot legally do this, i am doing the registry office the day before.... But I do want a "wedding Cermony" on the beach.

Is there anyone who can recommend or suggest someone to perform the cermony, the lady would like a Captain...but at this short time we are open to ideas....

Secondly - has anyone done something similar? How did you come up with your cermony ie the script part. Did you just copy a church style one and modify it?

All help appreciated, we are clueless

tinkerbell

Why don't you just go with someone like Tom Colton who can legally marry you wherever, so you don't have to do the registry office bit at all?

RHN Ireland

We're having a Humanist Celebrant who will marry you pretty much anywhere. Again it's not legal but it is a possible option for you?

We got in touch with her through the humanist association (just google it)

Sleepy

Tom Colton or either of the two women he works with could legally marry you there and they're happy to let you write your own vows.

We're getting married on a Saturday in a hotel by his colleague Mary Losty.

Peregrinus

To be honest, if you're getting married "very soon" you've left it a little late to organise a ceremony.

You're doing the legal end of in the registry office, which simplifies things a bit. Whoever presides over the beach ceremony doesn't have to an authorised marriage solemniser.

Still, the market for unauthorised marriage solemnisers/celebrants is a narrow one. So far as I know, the only people who make a point of providing this service, and who have some experience of it, are the Humanist Association. Contact them a.s.a.p., give them your date and ask if they can help.

If they can't, then I don;t know of anyone who's in this business who can help you.

If you have a friend who you think could carry it off, you could always ask him to act as M/C. You'll have to tell him what to do, though, and you may have been hoping to find someone who could suggest to you what you might do.

The other angle is to consider whether you need a solemniser/celebrant/presider at all. Could you and your partner take charge of the event, reciting your vows rather than simply answering "I do" when the celebrant recites them? If you have friends or family who are going to do signficant readings or recite poems or whatever, can you call on them at the appropriate moment, rather than have a comparative stranger do it? Any difficulty you have in getting a "professional" at short notice might be turned into an opportunity to really put your own stamp on your own wedding.

sazza

Sleepy wrote: »

Tom Colton or either of the two women he works with could legally marry you there and they're happy to let you write your own vows.

We're getting married on a Saturday in a hotel by his colleague Mary Losty.

Sorry to hijack the thread but I'm getting married next year and would like a civil ceremony on a sat - can u give me some details on Tom and his colleagues u mentioned please ?

tinkerbell

sazza wrote: »

Sorry to hijack the thread but I'm getting married next year and would like a civil ceremony on a sat - can u give me some details on Tom and his colleagues u mentioned please ?

just google Tom Colton and you'll find it!

Sleepy

http://tomcolton.com/?page_id=792

antodeco

I'm pretty sure Tom Coulton and the likes can only marry in a registered dwelling, so has to be indoors and pre-approved?

grind gremlin

What are the differences between a civil ceremony and a spiritual ceremony?

Spiritual Ceremony Civil Ceremony Can I get married outdoors or in a marquee? Yes Can I decide on the content of my ceremony? Yes Can I have hymns at my ceremony? Yes Can I decide the length of my ceremony? Yes Can I get married on a Saturday, Sunday or Bank Holiday? Yes Can I decide the time of my ceremony? Yes Can I have a sand ceremony at the end of the wedding ceremony? Yes Do I have to give a minimum of 3 months notice to the registrar’s office? Yes Can I have my ceremony and reception indoors in the same venue? Yes Can I have my ceremony and reception outdoors in the same venue? Yes






Taken from his website

WaltKowalski

grind gremlin wrote: »

What are the differences between a civil ceremony and a spiritual ceremony?

Spiritual Ceremony Civil Ceremony Can I get married outdoors or in a marquee? Yes Can I decide on the content of my ceremony? Yes Can I have hymns at my ceremony? Yes Can I decide the length of my ceremony? Yes Can I get married on a Saturday, Sunday or Bank Holiday? Yes Can I decide the time of my ceremony? Yes Can I have a sand ceremony at the end of the wedding ceremony? Yes Do I have to give a minimum of 3 months notice to the registrar’s office? Yes Can I have my ceremony and reception indoors in the same venue? Yes Can I have my ceremony and reception outdoors in the same venue? Yes

Taken from his website

Is it legal?

OP, would you just ask a friend to do something for you, seeing as you'll already have looked after the legal side of things?

tinkerbell

WaltKowalski wrote: »

Is it legal?

Yes it is, Tom Colton is a registered solemniser.

Gatica

antodeco wrote: »

I'm pretty sure Tom Coulton and the likes can only marry in a registered dwelling, so has to be indoors and pre-approved?

No, they are registered solemnisers with the HSE. Once you meet the legal marriage requirement of the state (age, notice period etc...), you can get married by Tom Colton, someone else in the Spiritualist Union of Ireland, someone in the Unitarian Church, who also perform these services, or some other "religiously" registered organisation with solemnisers.

wrt to other non-legal wedding ceremonies there are definitely other organisation other than the Humanist Association that perform wedding ceremonies.
e.g. www.myspecialday.ie (Michael McKeon)
www.abeautifulceremony.eu (they are in Ireland)

a list given here:
http://onefabday.com/wedding_celebrants_solemnisers/

King Krib

Sorry to hijack this thread, but has anyone got a recent email address for Tom Colton, I've recently emailed him a couple of times but my mails aren't going through now for some reason.

Gatica

info@spiritualceremonies.ie ?