Neighbours from Hell

LegacyUser

Well, basically as the thread title says i've recently moved house and looks like my neighbours aren't the most placid people in the world. Heard her shouting at him a couple of weeks but just put it down to a one off. Mentioned this to my housemate and he said yeah i've heard them screaming at each other alright. Only got in at 8pm last night after been on the go since 06.30am yesterday and sat down to chill out. Next thing the neighbours started screaming blue murder at each other, I could even make out some of what they were saying over the TV, and there was a bang at the wall then i'm presuming the gf threw something at him seen as he responded with "leave me alone, get away from me". It really angered me having to listen this not just because I shouldn't have to listen to it but because they've two small kiddies. The poor kids must have been terrified. They also have two staff terriers and there little girl, about 3/4 was just roaming around the back garden with them one day. Before the oh they can be as nice as any other dogs brigade jumps in here, why would anyone take the risk? I'm presuming my landlady "forgot" to tell me about this. I'm hoping this won't happen very often but if my housemate said he's heard it before then i've a feeling it could get worse. What would you do??? I'm thinking if it gets worse i'll move out, even though I shouldn't have to.

Miss Fluff

If it continues your best bet would be to move out.

Ian Whelan

Thank your lucky stars that you don't own the house and then find somewhere else.

Big Bag of Chips

If you think there's abuse or violence in the house you could call the guards.

Maybe a visit from them might remind them to argue a bit quieter. Unfortunately there are people who live like this, in constant battle, and don't see the problem.

If you do call the guards be prepared for the neighbours to figure out who made the call.

Why do you think the landlady knows about this? Does she live there too?

LegacyUser

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

If you think there's abuse or violence in the house you could call the guards.

Maybe a visit from them might remind them to argue a bit quieter. Unfortunately there are people who live like this, in constant battle, and don't see the problem.

If you do call the guards be prepared for the neighbours to figure out who made the call.

Why do you think the landlady knows about this? Does she live there too?

Landlady was staying there 2/3 nights a week up to a few weeks ago and my housemate knows so I presume it's common knowledge. Landladys sister was living there before I moved in. I could call the guards but I don't imagine they're the nicest bunch of people so don't want to get involved with them. I did turn the telly up to its full volume though I don't think this would phase them. It just makes me so sad to think of the poor little kids in the middle of this, it makes me so angry.

LegacyUser

I am sorry OP but I have been in your situation and you know what I did? I called the guards. I would be disturbed to hear that type of arguing going on and I couldn't live with myself if something worse were to happen. I personally did not give a rat's a$$ about getting involved especially when children are there. When I called the guards, not once they came over or questioned me. Domestic violence calls are anonymous to protect you. They do this to encourage people to take action and not sit about and let it continue. By calling the guards you are sending your neighbours the message that their noise is unacceptable and would not be tolerated. I am sorry if I sound harsh but ffs there are kids!

mikemac1

Been there OP

Couple upstairs screaming at each other, plates getting smashed and my ceiling getting thumped so hard I jumped from my couch

Their door is next to mine in this old flat complex and this guy slams his door so hard the table in my flat was vibrating
The two of them were as bad as each other. Some mouth on the lady. What am I saying, she's no lady

Call the gardaí, this is a fairly routine issue for them.
They will not tell the neighbours who called them, the garda on the desk and those in the squad car have dealt with plently of these.
Take a note for your own record who you were talking to in the station. You don't have to do anything with it, just save a little text file on your laptop with dates and times

Now the neighbours may well figure out its you but don't worry over it, you've shown you don't put up with messing and you're not slow to call the station if you're put out over it

Your landlady is a sly dog, renting out the place but never doing anything here

LegacyUser

unregged8989 wrote: »

I am sorry OP but I have been in your situation and you know what I did? I called the guards. I would be disturbed to hear that type of arguing going on and I couldn't live with myself if something worse were to happen. I personally did not give a rat's a$$ about getting involved especially when children are there. When I called the guards, not once they came over or questioned me. Domestic violence calls are anonymous to protect you. They do this to encourage people to take action and not sit about and let it continue. By calling the guards you are sending your neighbours the message that their noise is unacceptable and would not be tolerated. I am sorry if I sound harsh but ffs there are kids!

Think you need to calm down a bit. This is the first time i've heard them going mad like this. From the tone of your post you'd think i'd been sitting idly by for months while I knew young kids were suffering or something. I'm a young girl living out on my own so as much as i'd prefer to be straight on the phone, I have to protect myself in the process.

LegacyUser

mikemac1 wrote: »

Been there OP

Couple upstairs screaming at each other, plates getting smashed and my ceiling getting thumped so hard I jumped from my couch

Their door is next to mine in this old flat complex and this guy slams his door so hard the table in my flat was vibrating
The two of them were as bad as each other. Some mouth on the lady. What am I saying, she's no lady

Call the gardaí, this is a fairly routine issue for them.
They will not tell the neighbours who called them, the garda on the desk and those in the squad car have dealt with plently of these.
Take a note for your own record who you were talking to in the station. You don't have to do anything with it, just save a little text file on your laptop with dates and times

Now the neighbours may well figure out its you but don't worry over it, you've shown you don't put up with messing and you're not slow to call the station if you're put out over it

Your landlady is a sly dog, renting out the place but never doing anything here

And she has her own kids

Big Bag of Chips

annoyedtenant wrote: »

so as much as i'd prefer to be straight on the phone, I have to protect myself in the process.

So what advice are you looking for here? People have suggested calling the guards, which you don't seem to want to do. You also don't think you should have to move out.

So your option is.... put up with it.

You seem to want to blame your landlady? To be honest, its nothing really to do with her, and you are not even sure she knows the extent of it... you "presume" she knows. If you are reluctant to call the guards because you want to protect yourself, why would you expect her to be more likely to do it.... She's just a girl/woman, same as you are....

I also don't see why unregged8989 needs to "calm down a bit", they were only replying to you post saying....

annoyedtenant wrote: »

It just makes me so sad to think of the poor little kids in the middle of this, it makes me so angry.

.... And telling what their experience is. If you are "so angry", you'd want to do something about it, not depend on someone else to handle it for you.

That's what starts happening as you get older and more independent, you have to start taking responsibility for your own problems and stop hoping someone else will sort it out for you.... because as you are seeing now, nobody is going to do it for you.

LegacyUser

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

So what advice are you looking for here? People have suggested calling the guards, which you don't seem to want to do. You also don't think you should have to move out.

So your option is.... put up with it.

You seem to want to blame your landlady? To be honest, its nothing really to do with her, and you are not even sure she knows the extent of it... you "presume" she knows. If you are reluctant to call the guards because you want to protect yourself, why would you expect her to be more likely to do it.... She's just a girl/woman, same as you are....

I also don't see why unregged8989 needs to "calm down a bit", they were only replying to you post saying....



.... And telling what their experience is. If you are "so angry", you'd want to do something about it, not depend on someone else to sort out your problem.

That's what starts happening as you get older and more independent, you have to start taking responsibility for your own problems and stop hoping someone else will sort it out for you.... because as you are seeing now, nobody is going to do it for you.

I never once said I didn't want to call the guards. I'm not the one who has the problem that would be the bunch of neandarthals living next door to me. I didn't know for example that my call would be anonymous, as another poster pointed out, that's the kind of advice I was looking for. You know nothing about how independant or responsible I am and your dragging this off topic.