42,000 Irish are cheating online

Zen65

So has the spread of broadband brought us this new social phenomenon?

A MASSIVE 42,000 Irish men and women partake in extramarital affairs, it has been claimed.

Apparently the Irish are a bunch of cheaters thanks to a website that offers the chance to engage in relationships outside of marriage.

With 630,000 registered users from Ireland and the UK, IllicitEncounters.com helps people look for affairs online.

Scale

Defending the alternative 'match-making' service, Rosie Freeman-Jones revealed that she did not feel guilty about the site, which was founded in 2003.

Speaking on the John Murray Show, she admitted: "I don't think there is a great moral problem, we don't necessarily think an affair is a bad thing. I've been doing this job for four years and I sleep very well at night ... I am comfortable with it. People come to a site like ours simply because they want to feel they are not alone, if they are bored in their relationship. We recognise that this is happening and it is happening on a huge scale, our impact on marriages of the masses is very small.

"In a way it provides a bit of perspective. Once they have gone elsewhere they might think, no this is not what I want and that is a win, win for us."

Men are willing to fork out €100 per month to avail of the service, whether they're looking to flirt with a woman or engage in a full-blown affair.

Flirt

According to Ms Freeman-Jones, the majority of their users are aged between 35 and 40 and are financially stable.

"I think we have a tendency to demonise people who seek extramarital relationships and I think there is a fundamental problem with that.

"At the end of the day we are looking at between 40pc and 60pc of people who will cheat. You can either ignore it and say it is wrong and put it in a box somewhere or you can acknowledge it.

"Some people, maybe their confidence is low and they might come online just to flirt a bit.

"There are people who come looking for a specific type of relationship.

"I think there are quite a lot of things that motivate people and I don't think they are things you would expect.

"I don't think everybody using the site is missing something at home and that is something that is important to get across.

"These aren't people who are necessarily in an unhappy marriage but this a feeling among them that they get to a stage in their life where they feel as if they should be happy with their monogamous relationship and they are not and they feel confused and conflicted," she added.

labutler@herald.ie

Or is it just sensationalist journalism?

The numbers seem far too high to be credible.


Z

vicwatson

If you're a girl, why not PM me and we can have a little chat about it?

Sindri

How do I join....for eh....my....friend.

Where To

vicwatson wrote: »

If you're a girl, why not PM me and we can have a little chat about it?

And even if you're not . . . . . . .

El Guapo!

I'd say a lot of the members are horny teenagers looking for a lonely housewife.

Yakult

Is flirting online cheating now?!

Ricardo G

vicwatson wrote: »

If you're a girl, why not PM me and we can have a little chat about it?

And you can organise to meet her in some Topaz station .........Pedo

Zen65

vicwatson wrote: »

If you're a girl, why not PM me and we can have a little chat about it?

I'm no girl, neither by gender nor age!

Z

Sparks43

Ah the Herald

So it must be true!!!!?:eek:


And remember 99% of Herald readers are ****

Jen Pigs Fly

Wonder would I be able to find a rich sugar daddy on there ....


But seriously it's madness, why cheat, if you wanna sleep around then be single just don't cheat.

xsiborg

Zen65 wrote: »

So has the spread of broadband brought us this new social phenomenon?



Or is it just sensationalist journalism?

The numbers seem far too high to be credible.


Z

it's the decline of irish morals is the reason, joe.




i would think far more people use facebook to search for and arrange hookups than pay some website €100 a month, so those figures would be skewered towards the lower end of the scale tbh!

saywhatyousee

Dean09 wrote: »

I'd say a lot of the members are horny teenagers looking for a lonely housewife.

That is the exact reason why i joined adultfriendfinder all those years ago never got anywhere though:(

AngryBollix

Is that all?

lividduck

42,001 I just joined :D

Dubit10

Just a mirror of what happens daily in the real world. The amount of married women in my job who cheat with fellow workmates is startling tbh. I think a lot of married men that cheat think their wife won't for whatever reason but in reality they are just as likely to cheat as them.

Zen65

Yakult wrote: »

Is flirting online cheating now?!

I don't know, but this bit:

Men are willing to fork out €100 per month to avail of the service, whether they're looking to flirt with a woman or engage in a full-blown affair.

I just can't believe it. Those alleged 42,000 Irish people would be coughing up over €50m a year if this article is true. The total membership UK & Ireland would be paying €756M a year.

To flirt???? That would be madness.

I'm not really discussing the morality of the cheating (that's a different discussion and not for AH) I just am baffled that a journalist would report this without asking the simple questions like "if it's true, where is the money for this coming from?"

I suppose my point is that we are constantly being bombarded with utter rubbish by the media who are supposed to be informing us. This sensationalist journalism appears as one of the most trashy, lazy pieces of journalism I've seen in a while. If I were cynical I'd say it's nothing more than an unpaid advert for a dodgy website, which is trying to suggest that this sort of behaviour is normal.

"But honey there's 630,000 people doing it in Ireland & UK alone"

The article just tickled my cranky nerve!!


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smash

I think the traffic on IllicitEncounters.com is about to shoot through the roof!

Where To

xxxJennyxxx wrote: »

Wonder would I be able to find a rich sugar daddy on there ....

PM sent.

MaxyJazz

im a sugar daddy:o

I think men are great, but!!!!!!!!!!!


The site charges MEN 100 euro a month to join, but it free for women to join:p

recylingbin

Zen65 wrote: »

So has the spread of broadband brought us this new social phenomenon?



Or is it just sensationalist journalism?

The numbers seem far too high to be credible.


Z

Not even sensationalist journalism.
Smells like a press release from illicitencounters website.

Granted, I formed my opinion from the opening paragraph an read no more.

Gummy Panda

xxxJennyxxx wrote: »

Wonder would I be able to find a rich sugar daddy on there ....


But seriously it's madness, why cheat, if you wanna sleep around then be single just don't cheat.

The safety of a relationship but the thrill of sex with someone strange.

Basically having their cake and eating it

OldeCinemaSoz

No stinky finger...

then there's no cheating...

that's my policy!

ejmaztec

xxxJennyxxx wrote: »

Wonder would I be able to find a rich sugar daddy on there ....


But seriously it's madness, why cheat, if you wanna sleep around then be single just don't cheat.

I've got a bag of rich sugar, howya fixed?

Doc Ruby

Zen65 wrote: »

I just can't believe it. Those alleged 42,000 Irish people would be coughing up over €50m a year if this article is true. The total membership UK & Ireland would be paying €756M a year.Z

Yeah, its bollocks. Even if it was true that's just 1% of Irish people which would have to be some kind of record as far as fidelity goes.

Won't stop the usual suspects lurching onto the thread mind you.

Jake187

Zen65 wrote: »

The numbers seem far too high to be credible.

Im sure I wasnt the only one who went to the site after it was linked in the article ... :pac:

But yes. I call BS on it having 630,000 registered users. Alot seemed like ghost profiles to me. Thus I think this is more so an advertisment than an article.

As for 42,000 Irish couples willing to cheat? ... that number is too low to be credible. Alot of people doing the dirt these days.

30txsbzmcu2k9w

It´s an advertorial. Company sends on some PR guff to every newspaper in the country and a subeditor rewrites some sensational bullsh*t.

Duuh.

jester77

Nice bit of marketing!

Biggins

Zen65 wrote: »

So has the spread of broadband brought us this new social phenomenon?

Or is it just sensationalist journalism?

The numbers seem far too high to be credible.

On the whole, hyped up numbers in reality.

For example, I registered to a number of sites (news, etc) to read their stuff - but that don't make me an avid fan or a person that wishes all the time to avail of their services.

I'm sure many have joined to do what they want to do, through the site in question - but I suspect there is also a considerable number of people that registered with the site possibly out of curiosity and nosiness - if only to see if anyone in their local area is also on it that they know! :pac:

thebigbiffo

my guess is the number of 42k members is true...but how many are regular PAYING members.

I dont mind the idea of the site at all. imo, a marriage can be joyless or stale but there could still be love there, not to mention a family, that both adults dont want to see broken. a site like this is better than either partner trawling local nightclubs looking for an affair and the limits and rules are agreed in advance saving any potential eastenders moments down the line. i believe the owner when she says a site like this could actually help many marriages.

strange world out there.

Bad Panda

mariaalice wrote: »

I think men are great, but!!!!!!!!!!!


The site charges MEN 100 euro a month to join, but it free for women to join

I've a brilliant idea! Let's kick off another sexism thread with this in the original post!

foxyboxer

Wow, exactly 42,000...imagine that.

If they just made up some random figure like 41,867 it would appear more believable.

thebigbiffo

foxyboxer wrote: »

Wow, exactly 42,000...imagine that.

If they just made up some random figure like 41,867 it would appear more believable.

it's common practice everywhere to round up and down.

Son Of A Vidic

Zen65 wrote: »

Or is it just sensationalist journalism?

Yes.

ToxicPaddy

Corvus Maximus wrote: »

Zen65 wrote: »

Or is it just sensationalist journalism?

Yes.

A load of boll*x... and the herald is known for its high standard of journalism too.

If they have to advertise the site using tripe like that, it means no one uses the site and they are trying to drum up business using by any means necessary. :rolleyes: