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being blanked by friend

  • 22-02-2012 4:44pm
    #1
    GettingBetter
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭


    Hi All,

    I need some advice.
    I have a really good friend that i've been through so much with. Good, bad, laughs, tears, everything. They are always complaining how they are being blanked by friends and how its annoying and childish.
    Unfortunately, I have started to notice this same behaviour in them over the past few weeks. Talking to me as if I'm just a casual acquaintance, and sending me the distant texts that they send to everyone else. I was supposed to be special and their real friend. I don't feel like their friend anymore, just a bit used.
    What should I do? Should I approach them? They have hurt me before, should I have exptected it?


Comments

  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Moved your post here OP, this is the forum for asking advice on personal issues.

    All the best, :cool:


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    This isn't what you want to hear, but if this is the same person as seems to appear in all your other posts, and even before I saw the other posts, you are in love with this person and occasionally force yourself into denial about it. They are treating you like a normal friend and it will never be enough for you. You are possibly thinking you'd settle for something in between friendship and love because you don't think the love thing can ever happen for some reason.

    If that rings true for you, and maybe it won't either way, then you've got two options:

    1) accept what friendship you have for what it is, and get on with your life.
    2) tell yourself and the other person how you really feel, and accept the consequences.


  • #4
    IrishEyes19
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,861 ✭✭✭IrishEyes19


    Hey OP, Ive gone through the same situation before. Its really tough, and a lot of people Ive noticed will accuse you of being clingy, over the top and possessive. But funny enough they werent there when you supported your friend through times when they were difficult, down, and really needed you. So why shouldnt you feel hurt and let down when that person lets you down.

    However, the thing is confrontation doesnt solve anything at all. Or making a scene. You can talk to your friend about it too, but be prepared that they may not understand or agree. Friends do phase out unfortunately, its really hard, but there is nothing you can do to stop it. I can only advise you invest in your other friendships, if they are a true friend, she will come back. I would just be more cautious with your dedication this time to them. I dont mean be mean or anything but dont drop everything either. best of luck


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